Aloha and Thank You for visiting.
I’ve got a lot of great things about #sex and #orgasm to share with you.
If this is your first read, welcome. You are going to find a lot of answers you won’t find anywhere else.
If this is not the first post you read, I am glad you enjoyed what you learned so far.
The #FoodForThought won’t be disappointing…
This blog is divided into the following categories: sex be religion, teenage experiences (drugs, drinking, first time, condoms, etc.), STD/sti (bathing, removal of an unplanned “accident”), sex experiences/BDSM (some are how to and some are the kind that make penthouse forum blush and normal/vanilla people pass out – parents, don’t sweat those – they are only at patreon), toy training and orgasm exercises (how to make g-spots, how to pick training toys for o/g/a/s/m spots (those are the actual medical terms), an index finger can touch your ovary, why some guys bend to the left and other useful tidbits) and finally relationships/boundaries/communication (probably the most important items of necessity).
The original letters (about 200 of them) were written in succession. If the post has a “Letter #” then it was part of the original series. If the post does not contain “Letter #” at the beginning of the post, then that was written for everyone who is not my niece. (She would have some background the rest of you don’t.)
Each Letter builds upon knowledge gained in a previous letter… much like a basic textbook. Most of the Letters are about how to train your sexual muscles to orgasm the way your body was designed to achieve. Getting things out of order can be dangerous. Follow the posts starting with the earliest post first if you really want to lay a proper foundation. (Pun intended.)
Seriously, crawl before you attempt to run and end up tripping and falling. It hurts. I know.
Nuggets in every post…
Maybe your partner comes from a different perspective or background and you are here to learn something to help achieve common ground. Maybe you are a #teen, #parent or single dad looking for answers. Maybe you are just curious to see if there is anything you might be missing. For the record… you are and so am I. There was a time when I needed answers… and they weren’t forthcoming.
Rabidly tenacious for answers at a very young age, I wanted to know what I wasn’t being told about what I could do. Why was I being poked and prodded as a science experiment in a hospital at 6 years old?
“Doctor, what is wrong with my child?”
“We don’t know, let’s run more tests.”
… is not the most comforting way to realize you have a useful talent.
I could squirt. I couldn’t control it.
Did anyone ever wonder why young children are so enamored with their private parts and then their mentors tell them to quit enjoying life?
It took me about 40 years of sex to distill this education into multi-syllabic words where the sentence isn’t “oh god, I’m cumming”… and now for the money shot. I still learn everyday and like to see how (or even if) the wisdom imparted is making it into common practice.
You don’t have to agree with the things I say. Your experience (s) may be different. There are 31 flavors at Baskins N Robbins for a reason. But, if you have nobody else with an answer… I’m giving the answer I wish someone would have given to me.
Before the internet, when posing sex questions, we asked people around us what they knew… Friends our own age, parents, grandparents, people we trusted, doctors and porn. With the advent of the internet, searching for nuggets of truth and hidden gems became pretty easy. There are quadrillions of terabytes of stuff out there from people willing to disclose what they think you should believe.
Some actually say the really obvious stuff like, “when I was a teenager sex wasn’t that good but now that I’m in my twenties it’s really great” or “wow, I thought sex in my twenties was awesome but it’s garbage compared to what I can do in my thirties” or even “forty is the new thirty but better” or “jeez I wish I could go back and tell my teenage, twenty-something, thirty and forty-self what I know now in my fifties… those experiences would have been so much better if I’d only known… yada, yada, yada.”
All of those statements are true, including this rarely spoken truth… The journey is a series of building blocks… most people get hurt early on or never get the right instruction to make them want to proceed down the path so they stop learning and settle with what they know.
Thus, I found limited knowledge and basal exchanges occupy about 99% of internet search results Google returns to me.
I didn’t develop a conscience to share my muscle training wisdom until my niece became a teenager and I realized that without disclosing what I know… it would be shameful on my part and potentially detrimental to her growth should she make even one of the dumb mistakes I made on my path. I’d hate to know she shut down after a bad experience when we all stub our toes learning to walk. After awhile, I decided to let everyone else in on these secrets.
Sex… is a good thing… especially when it is done well and for the right reasons.
It’s a gnosis. Why? I figured out the best orgasms are: 1) spiritual in nature, 2) are in a monogamous loving relationship, 3) with a partner you knew instantly was your soul mate (even before introducing yourself), 4) require you to know how to operate you before entering said relationship 5) without a doubt the best reason to exist on earth and 6) usually won’t happen until you are in your thirties.
(Yep, it takes lots of practice to train those muscles correctly. Babies born with legs can’t walk for about a year. What makes you think a pubescent teen is going to magically know what real love is or how to orgasm at your optimal potential when your junk isn’t even properly trained until your late twenties or early thirties?). It’s no surprise thirty is about the time people realize they chose the wrong mate and start looking for sexual fulfillment in new and undiscovered ways… hmmmm.
Sex… the rare instances where 1+1 can = 3 or more.
Sex is really misunderstood… if it was completely understood… there would be nobody with any questions. We would relate to sex like math. 1+1=2. In a universal language with absolute answers, Nobody would have a dissenting opinion.
While most people understand math basics… addition, subtraction, division and multiplication, they don’t always want to understand algebra, geometry, trig or calculus. However, there are a few among us who do want to understand the finer points of derivatives, physics and quantum mechanics.
Everybody has the best sex they have. Whether your definition of orgasmic great sex is a two minute quickie or seventeen hours to dehydration… that is up to you. The Letters were not written to insult anyone’s ability. They were written to embrace the wisdom of the best sexual experiences a person may have if they choose.
By the numbers…
There are about 9 billion people in the world.
A little more than 180 million of those have taken a peek at my bizarre sex life.
Around 3 million have viewed at least one video.
Due to my unique talents, my partner search led me on a global treasure hunt. After “sometimes” enjoying about 1,000 different partners (incl: LGBTQ+?) and counting, I learned most people really suck at sex. If you have had more than one partner then you know I am telling the truth. I’m not being rude by stating the truth. I’m being honest. I can only name 6 people whom I can personally attest are actual Masters at their craft. A couple of these were amazing love at first sight LTR relationships and a couple were sport fuckers who were just exceptional at their craft. All 6 were normal people that did not have a history in porn. Porn people are very convincing ACTORS.
Wouldn’t it be nice if someone wrote a blog and told you how to distinguish a great lover from a mediocre one without having sex… so you wouldn’t have to figure that out the hard way? (Hint hint).
Loving relationships coddle, cuddle and empathize. Sexual relationships including sport fucking and casual sex include quite a few hard knocks. I will provide my personal pathways to both ends of the spectrum while attempting to sugar coat most of my deliveries.
Since becoming an expert at the thing between your legs is not the case with most people… many have unanswered questions…
No matter how many dumb mistakes or awesomeness experiences I had, I knew that there was always more. I never quit learning and I never will. I love time well-spent chasing the ultimate orgasm. You are here because you are searching for answers without the requirement of making all the mistakes I made.
I’d stop here but besides my own early curiosity about whether or not there was salvation for the sexually charged, there is a huge contingent of Bible beaters who are looking for answers more profound than: no masturbation, no sex before marriage, yes children, no divorce and no adultery. If you realize later that you made a mistake, suck it up buttercup, we will give you three hours of counseling before you schedule the church for your big white-wedding day.
Seems somewhere between buying indulgences and pious Puritan espoused behavior swearing masturbating is a sin when there is zero evidence in the Jewish, Muslim or Christian texts to support such ignorant statements, people forgot our true roots of sexual enjoyment for more than procreation and being naked were completely acceptable to the Creator.
I think you will really enjoy the enlightening posts on religion and sex.
Enjoy the Letters to Jamison.
Some of them may answer questions you never thought to ask.
Share with your friends… and maybe some enemies you’d like to have as friends.
Throw $1.00 into the hat and support if you feel you learned something of value. (Here at the bottom of a post or at patreon because that is how I know the choice to make the Letters available was helpful for you.)
With love, great orgasms, healthy relationships and Aloha,