Caveat for toys… START SMALL!!!!!
Use glass not plastic! (Glass or other natural materials… stone, wood, metal… create better orgasms than Synthetics.)
Only use battery operated toys with a partner.
When you are solo… you need to teach your body how to operate itself… a bunch of vibration is not going to help.
Liberator (a sex toy company from which I do not receive financial compensation) makes great glass toys. They also sell wedges. (I will keep that in sex toys.) While their glass toys are second to none, I returned all the other items I ever ordered from them because the plasticizers in the synthetic fabrics gave me rashes.
I am a big fan of solid objects. Solid objects don’t bend so be careful and slow.
A female vagina is curved. A glass dildo is not.
Puncturing yourself is not an optimal strategy for enjoyment.
Solid objects will force you to gain muscle strength… this is a good thing.
After you have mastered holding your pee, in ten second intervals at will, use that same exercise with your finger inserted.
Use the finger to push against different directions inside you. Continue doing the kegel exercises while your index finger points north, then south, to the east and finally west.
If your internal muscles are strong enough when clenched to move your finger to center and hold it in place, completely compressed by the vaginal walls… then… you can move up to toys.
Until you develop the muscle strength to pull your own index finger in and push it out… Without the use of your hands… Go at a speed no faster than your heartbeat and a thrust strength no greater than two fingers’ strength.
The goal here is to teach your internal muscles to work for you.
If the hole only opens to accept something else that does the work… then just forget about achieving the almighty orgasm.
I will write you a separate series of letters explaining what exercises to do and how to pick a training toy for each of the g spots and types of orgasms you might want to learn how to create to teach your muscles how to achieve greatness.
Stick with a finger for now… you have lots of crawling to do before walking, running or doing flip-flops or cartwheels.
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