VD Follow Up, When Curiosity Killed the Cat

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Following up on the Valentine’s and VD post, https://letters2jamison.com/2019/02/13/valentines-vd-a-gift-that-keeps-on-giving/ someone posited the question: Was I just lucky or was there something about my lifestyle that kept me from contracting diseases I probably should have gotten?

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Promiscuity, in the 80s during the find patient zero aspect of the AIDS epidemic, was defined as 11 partners in one year. Statistically speaking, I’m guessing 8 dates a week in college pretty much defies logic when it comes to how I came through that time period relatively unscathed.

There are a lot of current (2019) commercials targeting LGBTQ about getting on a daily multiple prescription drug regimen to keep from getting HIV. Reading the possible side effects in the fine print, I’m sure you noticed the big section on kidney failure. One other interesting factoid about the regimen…part of it is also a treatment for hepatitis B.

Adding to my list of possible reasons why having unprotected sex with HIV/AIDS infected people did not result in my receipt of the disease, I would hope if individuals of high risk entertain risky behavior they add what they can from these practices to their protectionism mechanisms.

• I did not allow male semen inside me. The flagella (sperm) naturally chew holes in cell walls in order to fertilize an egg.
• I didn’t kiss or swap spit with people I was not in a monogamous relationship with.
• I bathed immediately after sex.
• I had an internal vaginal flushing mechanism called a female orgasm. (The fluid of which is usually around a 7.3 pH or higher. Same pH strip that they use to check whether or not a pregnant woman’s water broke.)
• I drank oxygenated water with a pH of 7.0 or greater.
• I ate non-GMO food.
• I regularly went skydiving and received a higher quantity of protons than the earthbound electron imbuing cell phone wearing group.


I was skydiving before proton therapy became a staple cancer treatment but after Louise L Hay taught me positive attitude and holistic medicine existed long before modern medicine.

You Can Heal Your Life at Hay House publishing.
https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.amazon.com/You-Can-Heal-Your-Life/dp/0937611018&sa=U&ved=0ahUKEwjOp7q-ytDgAhVK5oMKHYkdAN8QFghWMAw&usg=AOvVaw1J-ARQZQxneukKpD5y9TgE

Has anyone else gotten a curiosity bug when looking at the history of HIV and AIDS versus the current epidemic? In the 80s, the powers publicly announced the decade would not end without cure availability.                                                         What happened?

Looking for correlating answers to the posted question above, the deeper I searched, the less sense the purported 80s story line made.


A thorough read of today’s internet material says the disease was present in monkeys in 1920s Africa and transferred to humans via bush meat. Recent research states these monkeys have been living with SIV for upwards of 32,000 years. All well and good but how did they survive the flash frozen younger dryas event that thawed out only about 12,000 years ago? Not related to sex and sex solutions, I guess that is a question for another post.

Agreed, HIV is a mutated virus with ape origins. Even though the proposed number of worldwide infections prior to 1980 was estimated at 300,000 with a rapid rate of spread capability, one might think wealthy American sport hunters or travelers having some “fun on holiday” might have been the first to bring HIV from Africa to America.

However, there is no documentation of such a logical occurrence.

A Haitian man who presumably worked the Congo bush then moved to New York ultimately becoming an intravenous heroine addict claims that prize.

Serum tested post mortem from New York’s Haitian man initiated “junkie pneumonia” victims had some staggering rates.
1975 below 20%
1978 1 in 11
1979 29% of 40 samples
1980 44% of samples
1982 52% of samples

Check the first “4H” box for 1970s New York needle sharing junkies, users numbered in the tens of thousands, which does not explain the California gay sex angle.

Odd spread statistics

Is it possible to believe that a lower percentage of people had sex between 1920 and 1980 thus accounting for the slow to non-existent mutation of HIV-1 and HIV-2 coupled with stable distribution capability at roughly (300,000 individuals/60 years = 5,000 individuals) on an annual basis?

While it supposedly raged in Africa and came to Haiti through employment, then into the world of shared needles, during the free love sixties and sexual revolution seventies, HIV found no traction as a sexual issue in America? Other than one molested, embarrassed and victimized, 16 year old boy in St. Louis, no American hippie culture type contracted the disease?

I would argue people were more promiscuous then with a lot less condom use than now, because sexually transmitted diseases were not lethal.
Follow that logic for a minute.

Between 1981 and 1984 in America, 1 case became 249 and then close to 3000 cases with a roughly 50% mortality rate ballooned into around 250,000 cases with a dismal life expectancy.

By January 1986 the AIDS epidemic had infected over 1 million Americans.

Go backwards and none of this 1920-1980 math adds up when it is correlated to human sexual behavior.

If it only took less than 5 years to have 1 million infections, how could it take 60 prior years to have less than 300,000 cases?

Yet, today, the wildfire-like disease spreads at a rate of 5,000 new cases per day?

If we account for the rate of population change between 1980 and 2018, again, the math does not add up.

While the global population only doubled, the rate of HIV infection increased by a factor of 10.

Did the sexual habits of humans drastically change in 1980? Sure, we flew a lot more in the 80s than in the 20s but when Patient [letter] O from the airlines was crossed off the list after infecting only 40 people, there were a lot more questions than answers.

How AIDS went from nothing to worry about to pink buttons proudly worn in bars almost overnight lacked compassion and logical sense. At the time, most believed the prevailing attitude, still held from Hitler’s ethnic cleansing less than 40 years earlier, that someone had found a cure for gays and drug addicts. (That was the scary part of “not my problem” 80s greed culture.)

The official narrative is unique. In 1977 a female prostitute in San Francisco delivers a baby that later dies. The woman dies in 1987. Post mortem discovery was conducted in both cases to determine HIV strain presence. Nobody knows this when the evening news runs stories saying gay men are dying.

When the general population did hear about this new deadly sexual disease, not unlike the Tuskegee syphilis experiment, only “4H”, a specific targeted community, had an outbreak for this one specific variant of the HIV series. In 1981, the CDC credits Ken Horne as the actual patient zero. Clusters in the gay community of San Francisco, Los Angeles and New York almost simultaneously got the disease.

And suspiciously, no happy heartlanders contracted this rare disease where it was first reported. Nor were there reports in Miami, Hotlanta, Dallas or Chicago sites, only gay men in three cities on the east and west coast.

In 1983 the CDC already had a smoking gun. Which is great detective work. The CDC claimed there was no conspiracy. The dying men said there was.

If a person didn’t think the disease was going to personally threaten them, then any narrative was acceptable. On the other hand, if this could directly affect the one in the mirror, finding out everything one could was extremely important.

Normally when researching the history of the AIDS narrative, one wouldn’t go looking for benignly related vaccine studies, unless one actually believed being both the maker of the bullets and Band-Aids provides a perpetual income stream. In America, if you want to find out what really happened, follow the money.

In 1973 a study was conducted in Uganda for children with Burkitt’s lymphoma. Wikipedia states, in 1985 retroactive testing showed 50/75 children had a disease closely related to HIV. Women were also dying of a close cousin of HIV, but not the one that bombed the American gay men’s scene.

Scientific consensus rules out any sort of stereotypical hate behavior in favor of genetic mutation. A mutation they still cannot explain in any peer review paper I read. If there is a scientific consensus, there is a paper. No consensus, no publish. In the publish or perish world, everybody wants to be first to publish!

In the paper by V. Harinda, HIV: Past, present and future (Indian J Sex Transmission 2008; Vol.29, No.1), No test has been able to conclusively prove how the virus mutated from SIV into a human HIV disease naturally. However, under the heading of conspiracy theory, “Some people believe that the virus was spread… to gay men through hepatitis b vaccine trials.”

According to Colin W. Shepard et al. in Hepatitis B Virus Infection: Epidemiology and Vaccination (Epidemiological Reviews, Volume 28, Issue 1, August 2006), “First licensed in the United States in 1981, hepatitis B vaccine is now one of the most widely used vaccines in the world…” Additionally, “…the world’s first cancer prevention vaccine and the first vaccine to prevent a sexually transmitted disease.”

Humans are the only known natural HBV host. Scientists have a complete DNA understanding of the virus. I won’t bore you with the jargon however, It is scary how unrelated scientific papers describe HIV and HBV transmission almost like identical twins.

Based on the demographic of the majority of the initial recipients of HIV/AIDS, it is completely understandable how this was viewed as a targeted eugenics project by everyone looking at these statistics. An HBV trial was administered to the subset populations in the three locations where GRID first bloomed.

It doesn’t actually matter who or what started it. What matters is stopping it because what is touted to stop the speed of new daily infections is not stopping the spread of the disease!

Lots of people wanted to get tested. The big problem was that nobody would administer the test until the 6 month incubation period after sex had expired. This created MAYHEM! Many people, like myself, adopted a program of keeping a list of partners and getting tested every six months.

Between 1984 and 1987, research funding was made available because women, children and movie stars could get AIDS.

To squelch heterosexual public fear, an available cure was expected within two years. Those of us who knew a cure would never come, took it upon ourselves to find out how to protect ourselves while continuing to live the scene.

They say cases of rare pneumonia and cancer triggered the detection of HIV.

Knowing cancer and pneumonia are both diseases that are triggered by low body pH and science has repeatedly proven neither disease can survive in a pH environment above 7.0, I decided to do a little 1980s peer review research journal crawl.

Many researchers looked at the correlation between pH and HIV transmission.

I stumbled across the most interesting paper attempting to prove that pH is not a factor in HIV. To an untrained individual, this might pass muster. To everyone else who passed 8th grade biology or chemistry, pH regulates chemical availability and thus cellular function.

When growing plants we know that soil pH must be correct for nutrient uptake in order to flower or grow food. Human bodies are designed to operate optimally with a pH around 7.0.

Blood has a pH ranging from 7.6 to 7.2 whether a vein or artery (Bohr effect). The higher range reflects more oxygen thus allowing for the body to process sugars and create healthy cells.

Here is the quick, short summary of the published research from the 1980s papers I examined.

At a pH of 5.0 nothing HIV related replicates. Ta-daaa! Cure.

However, cancer and pneumonia go Gang Busters in the pH 5.5-6.6 categories. Not a cure.

At a pH of 7.6, the upper limit of what any paper disclosed, there was still viable mutation. How much? Who knows?

Of interesting note, if a weak solution of NH4CL was introduced within the first 18 hours, a 95% rate of unsuccessful cultivation occurred.

That translates to a Potential 95% reduction in getting HIV if applied within 18 hours of sex.

Ammonium chloride can be found in cough medicine, fireworks, food additives, shampoo, cleaning products and textile printing. In a not too stunning surprise, this method of reducing the likelihood of spreading the HIV infection never made it to market.


The first protease inhibitor to successfully delay disease progression in AIDS patients changed pH levels. Protease inhibitors are employed to “affect physiological processes.” Mice studied were cited to have a pH increase to 8.5.

Another useful factoid of merit is circumcised males are less likely (65%) to contract HIV through heterosexual sex than their foreskin retaining counterparts.

Microbicides dropped pH levels and failed to achieve the anticipated results.

But no cure was ever published. Not even for those that could afford it.


And now a possible solution to the dilemma.
Based on my lifestyle choices, adding oxygenated water might be a huge part of the solution. Why? Because the human body is roughly 68% water, a bag of mush and electrical impulses. Water is the filter. The pH and oxygen content of your filter controls everything including the oxygenation of your blood cells and ability to fight disease.

A pH of 8.0 is not dangerous to the human body as there are oxygen water products that are sold with this pH at health food stores. Water at a pH of 8.0 is extremely healthy. So are oxygen bars also called oxygen cafes where one can breathe pure O2. The Las Vegas airport has an O2 bar. Some portable O2 units normally used by elderly patients provide a decent option for non-exploding oxygen tanks. The King of Pop slept in an O2 chamber. Oxygen kills anaerobic organisms. It turns facultative anaerobes into aerobes. It binds heavy metals. Oxygen can do amazing positives.

I would ask that if dollars are being spent on education to deter the disease, spend a couple thousand on a triple replicated study. Needed tools will include: a high school biology lab containing microscopes, camera attachments to snap photos of the slides, slides, cover slips, Petrie dishes, pH strips, auger, safety gear, HIV cells from a willing person able to donate a few drops of infected blood, and probably some willing Biology club scientists-in-training interested to perform this triple replicated study designed for peer review and publication.

Culture the HIV cells in the substrate. According to research papers, this occurs within one hour. Increase the pH in increments from 7.4 to 8.6 to see when the disease fails to spread.

I’d make a Vegas betting line at 7.8 pH.

If my theory that HIV does not transmit at a pH above 7.6 and replicated scientific proof can substantiate the anecdotal explanation for my lifestyle, then a small lifestyle change to emulate the protective measures I employ including douching the orifice immediately after intercourse with oxygenated water and drinking oxygenated water might be all that’s needed to eliminate the spread of the disease.

If that doesn’t work, science has known since the mid 80s a weak solution of NH4CL immediately after intercourse will reduce the risk of infection by 95%.

After replicating the proof three times, spend the rest of your budget getting the good word out!

The slave mentality
I know board members of pharmaceutical companies. They don’t bring new drugs on the market unless those drugs are profitable. Now that an estimated 70 million people and counting have contracted HIV with about 36 million still alive, a couple million people taking a daily regimen of pharmaceuticals is profitable.

Much like cancer, as long as we never cure the disease while gaining a new influx of contaminated individuals on a daily basis, the mutating HIV virus strains will always need new development profit centered drugs.

If high school kids, those most endangered by the disease, would accept responsibility to find possible cures or at least attempt the science experiments to see what levels of O2 implementation could work, then they might be afforded a simple luxury: what it’s like to have sex without wondering if it might kill them.

Our slave-owning, freedom-wanting founding fathers said it best, “Those who do not fight for freedom do not deserve it.”

Bottom line. If you want a cure, you need to find it. There is too much profit in not stopping this infection.

According to this list: A Sick person is worth $250,000. Healthy isn’t profitable.

Terrifying Statistics

Two years ago an article was published in Ireland stating a whopping 44% of women aged 16-21 don’t enjoy their sex life.

The knot in the pit of my stomach when reading this fact is a combination of feelings ranging from a two year old whining “why mommy why” and simultaneously being unable to quit viewing a train-wreck.

https://www.her.ie/health/heres-why-some-most-women-fail-to-have-an-orgasm-309400

Insert funny meme here…

Except… The problem is… This really isn’t funny. Its indicative of societal norms and massively unacceptable sexual education.

If I was at lunch with my “come sit by Me and let’s rant a bit” girlfriends, the conversation would flow along these lines…

As I looked down into my newborns eyes I imagined wonderful futures right up to the point where I added, “and you will have a miserable sex life because I have no words of wisdom to give you. When it comes to knowing what is really possible… I want you to be just like the rest of ‘normal society’.”

The bundle of joy closes its eyes and screams, “Oh God, what did I get myself into?” Alas, it’s too late.

Right after Valentines and christmas are the two most popular times when divorce lawyer retention goes up and break-up with no make-up hits peak season.

Attorneys explain “Relationship failures” are chalked up to boundaries and communication fails. (I think there is at least one post in here on the subject matter.)

https://letters2jamison.com/2019/02/03/letter-101-am-i-in-a-healthy-relationship/

But instead of learning what makes a woman tick on the inside…females are usually persuaded to find a different mate. (I can smile when I tell you a thousand times when THAT didn’t work.)

Here’s a better solution than emulating that trick… try training what you have.

Two scary questions I have for that group of 16-21 year olds I referenced in the beginning: #1) what tools are you using to experience sexual release? #2) are you laying there as a dead fish expecting a silicone or plastic battery operated device to create a magic explosion some skillful marketing company initmated might happen if you bought their brand name product and used it within the limits of the warranty?

If the answer to question #1 is either: my fingers or glass… Congratualtions!!! You get a gold star. Now… let’s find out what movements aren’t in your quiver.

If the answer to question #2 is Yes to ANY OF IT – oh dear, we have our work cut out for us. I am not surprised you are unhappy with the resulsts. Today is your lucky day – there is a three part post that can get you on-track to smiles. Enjoy the link.

https://letters2jamison.com/2019/02/10/click-your-mouse-part-one/

Introduction to the Letters

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Aloha and Thank You for visiting.
I’ve got a lot of great things about #sex and #orgasm to share with you.


If this is your first read, welcome. You are going to find a lot of answers you won’t find anywhere else.


If this is not the first post you read, I am glad you enjoyed what you learned so far.

The #FoodForThought won’t be disappointing…


This blog is divided into the following categories: sex be religion, teenage experiences (drugs, drinking, first time, condoms, etc.), STD/sti (bathing, removal of an unplanned “accident”), sex experiences/BDSM (some are how to and some are the kind that make penthouse forum blush and normal/vanilla people pass out), toy training and orgasm exercises (how to make g-spots, how to pick training toys for o/g/a/s/m spots (those are the actual medical terms), an index finger can touch your ovary, why some guys bend to the left and other useful tidbits) and finally relationships/boundaries/communication (probably the most important items of necessity).


The original letters (about 200 of them) were written in succession. If the post has a “Letter #” then it was part of the original series. If the post does not contain “Letter #” at the beginning of the post, then that was written for everyone who is not my niece. (She would have some background the rest of you don’t.)


Each Letter builds upon knowledge gained in a previous letter… much like a basic textbook. The low number letters start with the basics that most people should hear when they are pre-teens and glides into high school, college, adult world and underworld subject matter in the 200 series.

Most of the Letters are about how to train your sexual muscles to orgasm the way your body was designed to achieve. Getting things out of order can be dangerous. Follow the posts starting with the earliest post first if you really want to lay a proper foundation. (Pun intended.)
Seriously, crawl before you attempt to run and end up tripping and falling. It hurts. I know.

Sex… is a good thing… especially when it is done well and for the right reasons.

It’s a gnosis. Why? I figured out the best orgasms are: 1) spiritual in nature, 2) are in a monogamous loving relationship, 3) with a partner you knew instantly was your soul mate (even before introducing yourself), 4) require you to know how to operate you before entering said relationship 5) without a doubt the best reason to exist on earth and 6) usually won’t happen until you are in your thirties.

(Yep, it takes lots of practice to train those muscles correctly. Babies born with legs can’t walk for about a year. What makes you think a pubescent teen is going to magically know what real love is or how to orgasm at your optimal potential when your junk isn’t even properly trained until your late twenties or early thirties?). It’s no surprise thirty is about the time people realize they chose the wrong mate and start looking for sexual fulfillment in new and undiscovered ways… hmmmm.


Enjoy the Letters to Jamison.
Some of them may answer questions you never thought to ask.
Share with your friends… and maybe some enemies you’d like to have as friends.
Throw $1.00 into the hat and support if you feel you learned something of value. (Here at the bottom of a post or at patreon because that is how I know the choice to make the Letters available was helpful for you.)
With love, great orgasms, healthy relationships and Aloha,
C. Change

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Rhythm and Sex

Having done double pole… This is impressive

Letter #13
Sex to the Music is Art in Motion

If you are putting together a playlist of great sex music… I put these in my faves. I also have some tips and tricks for using the list that I think you will enjoy.


Prince has never made a song/track that wasn’t, at it’s very core, Music for the sexually inclined. He is my favorite artist.


Ginuwine made a timeless song called Pony. It was almost always my opener at an event. I think you will find Channing Tatum’s Magic Mike movie version quite engaging. The original is a great wake-up next to your partner song and fun before coffee if you change the lyrics “if you’re horny” to “good morning”.

If I was opening a swingers event, or doing a public education session, or perhaps something a little darker at a private venue, I had fun with my choice of sex songs. Prince or Ginuwine was the opener. Car Wash (Rose Royce) or either The Brothers Johnson or the remix with Quincy Jones, Ray Charles and Chaka Kahn’s I’ll Be Good To You was usually my closer. (When I sang that song to myself I was singing those words to my box.)

Madonna (in the later years), Sinead O’Connor (in the earlier years) and Sade also made some wonderful timeless melodies.
Thank you to Chrissie Hynde and the Pretenders…Brass In Pocket with confidence is a killer.


More current and upbeat, Bruno Mars has Uptown Funk.


George Clinton and any of his bands, make music to sex by. If you haven’t worked up a sweat by the end of Flashlight by Parliament, something is very wrong.


The one constant in all of this is to have rhythm.


Staying with the beat allows you and your partner the benefit of proper timing.


It is also helpful to learn this trick if you and your partner don’t always have the same tune playing in your heads at the same time.
He zigs when you zag and things get bent. Ouch!


4/4 time is always the easiest at roughly 120 bpm for smooth sex.


You can Missy Elliott Work It at speed, half speed, quarter-time or double time without injury.


Syncopated rhythms require a bit more experience as do poorly mixed house or trance music.
If you are on the beat… and tempo is abruptly changed… eeeew!


Music is phenomenal for foreplay, the act itself and memories.
I actually remember great sexual experiences (and smile) when I hear certain songs.


Oh, did you think I was talking about songs to just go up and down with? Maybe a list of mood music top tens? Nah… that’s beginner stuff. And here is where the concept of allowing the music to take control becomes more than a euphemism.


The music tells you whether to gently run your fingers from the left hip up the lat to the armpit and back down, smack a butt cheek or lick an ear.

I’m sure you have gotten enriched with one to four hours of Classical music on a daily basis, just like I did in my formative years… so lets put that Vivaldi, Rachmaninoff, Bach, Chopin, Brahms, Handel, Schubert, Strauss and your other favorite classical masters to good physical use.


Doing it to Beethoven is as much fun as to Hank Williams.
Beethoven is better on a bed or soft surface while Hank is better in a swing. Just my thoughts.

Your body is the symphony. Every instrument a specific body part.


Try sex to an entire Mozart symphony. Start to finish. Stay with the music… you will be surprised at how much of a workout this will create.

Here’s the trick to success…

Use your fingers on the left hand when you hear the piccolo, the right foot with the oboe. Hips move to the violin strings, rib cage matches the French horn… you get the point. Match a single body part for each instrument. When their tune plays… your parts move to the notes.


The act of moving up and down during independent body part additions is conducted by the beat. Crescendo… bigger movements.
Change tempo…change position.


I know you’ve got rhythm… you got my DNA in there somewhere… find your flow… get your groove on.

When you master that… you are becoming a master.


I think my personal roots, grounded in R&B and gospel, provide for those slow, sultry, energy connections more than punk or head banging 80s rock but a proficient, well-rounded, sex addict learns to be able to match any beat.


Clubbing was a big thing in my day. I loved to go dance. Way back when, I could be found in a suspended cage above the dance floor in my 6” stiletto heels with an equally scantily clad male stripper behind me. The early precursor to the chicks with fuzzy boots and glow sticks on the wood podiums today at raves. I loved getting paid to slither with another to the beat above an audience.


Baptists are correct…Dancing is sex on your feet.

A great dance partner is going to be great in bed.
If they can parkour to the rhythm… it’s a bonus!

Some transitions can be tricky if your partner doesn’t have your flexibility.


Once you learn how to move, you should be able to travel in-Congress (coupled) from inside the door, through the den, across all surfaces in the kitchen, up the stairs, into the bedroom and into the tub without separating or missing a stroked beat.


Sex, at least for me and hopefully for you, will involve all the senses and all of your body parts during all of the experience. “All in” isn’t just a saying.


Go to the piano bench and pull out a few sheets of music. Work with your classical favorites… you will stay busy for awhile.


While I talked about this as a two person activity… at your age… a glass toy with a dollop of coconut oil and a few hours of internal crunches/kegel exercises with external body manipulation to Tchaikovsky should provide a world of stimulation possibilities.


Keep the core strong.
I couldn’t help but giggle after proofreading this. You will know why, once you master this art. Being able to independently move body parts to the rhythm of a classical symphony with a partner who can do the same is about as common as the two pole dancers at the start of this post.

Enjoy my music selections and as always… Love you,

C. Change

Valentine’s VD a Gift That Keeps On Giving

Valentine’s and VD
HIV vaccine… I understand they have one now… go get it or learn how to squirt so you will have the ability to be self cleaning. I have two anecdotal stories for you to illustrate my point.

Story #1
I remember when aids first hit the news. A few days later, I was at my favorite bar, in my suspended cage above the dance floor, dancing in 6” black stiletto heels with a male stripper behind me, when I noticed a crowd gather around the bar below me. Then and there, I got my first glimpse of how people would react to the latest deadly STD.


Enter the cute, pink “I don’t have aids” button.


Right there underneath me… there was a man with a big box. People gathered around… buttons being passed out at the bar.


Nope, no test… you just got a big pink glow in the dark button which you proudly displayed on your chest proclaiming your I don’t have aids (so it’s ok to have unprotected sex with me) promotion and continued to speed date, get drunk, do lines of coke in the bathroom and ultimately go home with the guy who drove up in a lambo.


It’s no real surprise to me now how the aids epidemic exploded. I was right there in the thick of it. Because of my ardent stupidity, I spent the next twenty plus years being tested every 6 months for a disease I never contracted… but many people doing exactly what I was doing, did.


We were all playing a sexual game of Russian roulette. Chance probably has something to do with the outcome. But statistically, the deck was not stacked in my favor. I hit the joker’s, too not just the usual 52.

Maybe there was something about me… the internal and external self-cleaning mechanism I utilized… that made the difference?


Almost 20 years later, when I was still on the plane, landing in Thailand, the stewardesses passed out condoms and statistics fliers along with our passport entry forms and explained that Bangkok, our landing destination, had the highest incidence of aids worldwide. I can’t remember but it was some ridiculous percentage … like half or greater than half of the teen to 30 year olds had aids. Not HIV but full blown AIDS.


We were going to go to bars and I was told not to let anybody sweat on me. Try that in a jam packed club at New year’s. Ha!


After being highly entertained on the mainland, I met friends on the little outter islands. One of them is a popular destination called Koh Samui.


Prostitution is a way of life on Koh Samui’s four, roughly mile long, dirt Ugly Roads. Mixed in with Muay Thai boxing venues, parents sell their small children… out in the open. It’s normal behavior there.

The bar store-fronts have stages and a row of girls dressed in the exact same outfit arranged from toddler to pre-teen standing side by side awaiting their next trick. It was like the old version of 42nd Street in New York City with school age children as the wares. I took pictures.


It’s mostly tourists that walk down the streets to buy underage girls and boys from their parents. Boys are called kai-tai and made up to look like girls. The visitor buys a drink, points at a child, the mama-san goes and takes the child by the hand and leads it AND the customer around to the back of the building. A little while later the mama-san returns with the kid in tow and the child is placed back in the on-stage line-up.


We watched a German male in his late 50s check out child store front after store front and finally settle on one he liked. He could legally buy a kid for sex who could not have been 4 years old yet and the mama-san didn’t even flinch and neither did the kid as she was led behind the building. I guess almost 4 years old is old enough to be alone with a 50 year old man because the mama-san came back to the front to sell an even younger kid and an older kid to someone else while the about 4 year old was still being used.


Once those kids get to be about 12 or 13 they are too old for the sex trade and join normal society on the mainland to date, continue prostitution (since it’s really all they know how to do to put food in their belly) and if they can snag the right bait, hitch a ride with or marry a tourist who will take them out of their known world.


At a time when teenagers in America are just beginning to learn about sexual experience, these kids are retired from multiple adult partners on a daily basis since they were not quite old enough to walk.


And, yes… they are seriously diseased. It’s in their sweat, spit, tears, piss, clothes they wear or try on and don’t buy in a store… on the plastic bottle they drank from, the money that changed hands, the gas pump handle, the taxi cab seat, the door at the restaurant, it’s everywhere.

Tourists gave diseases to children who gave it to more tourists who took it home and gave it to their significant other who gave it to their thing-on-the-side who gave it to their actual boy/girlfriend who drank out of someone else’s cup… are you getting the message yet???


It is also a very different culture. A culture, not unlike it’s food, that has travelled all over the world.


Why am I telling you this story?
I’m reinforcing the protect yourself motif.

According to the movie Sold… http://www.soldTheMovie.com there are roughly 5.5 million child prostitutes at the current time. It’s a good movie to watch. I think their estimate of the number of child prostitutes is low, very very low.

Back to my story…
There was a day when I got a call from an attorney or family member of some random guy I had sex with and he had slept with a prostitute who gave him aids.


Apparently, they had tracked down the sex worker and she had died and so had the guy, along with a string of other people this guy had infected. The person contacting me was stunned to hear that I was healthy.


I had two things going for me that none of the others did. One: I bathed after sex. Two: I had an internal fluid flushing system called an orgasm that probably kept me from more problems that I will ever know. I always enjoyed one final orgasm when getting clean after sex just to make sure I smelled like me again.


I watched and participated as patient Zero in the 80s became about 30% of the globe. And for what? Amusement? Pride? Hate? Ignorance? Arrogance? I sure wasn’t thinking about the future.


Somehow, I survived the worst of the ugliest and I am grateful for that. But you, you are just stepping up into the mess we made. I know it’s not fair and I apologise.


Everybody older than you is responsible. Whether it was inaction, turning a blind eye, actively participating, forced submission or fighting a losing battle; we all allowed the creation of your world.


There are, I still believe, equal amounts of good to balance the bad. Just be very aware that there is a segment of the global population that was born into sex slavery, thinks life is a throw away commodity and cares even less about your life than they do about their own.


Protect yourself…. This Valentine’s day and EVERY day.


Love you,
C. Change

Click your mouse part two

Letter #17
Picking a Glass Toy for Training


One of my favorite toys is this little piece of glass with a bulbous top (start with the 1″ wide variety) that narrows to a small shaft with a wide circular base containing bumpy nodules. It has a round handle below the base.


This basic shape comes in a variety of colors, shapes and sizes. The 3” depth is best for training… vaginally or anally.


Use the 1”-1.5” width tip that is rounded… not the pointy one. The shaft width for this size is usually ¾”.


You want an initial toy that has some distinct variation between the head and the shaft so that you can train your internal parts to “suck down” on the entire unit… to conform to the shape of the toy.

The whole toy only needs a dime sized drop of organic coconut oil to be properly lubed.


Set up a wide mouth glass with ice cubes and a little water beside your “space.”
This is what you put the toy in when it is not inside you.


Ever wonder why they call it “hot pussy”… you are about to find out.


You will probably like the cold sensation on the tip.

At the speed of your heartbeat… and using alternating hands (you need to be ambidextrous to be properly balanced) slowly twist the toy in in one-half inch increments and then twist it back out.


As you twist the toy in… breathe in.

Breathe in for a count of 8 (or four heartbeats).


Reverse the process at the same speed while you exhale.


Continue to match breath and heartbeat.


Allow your internal sensory skin to feel what is going on.


The twisting motion should cause your internal skin to conform to the toy.

This is super important!!!!
Slow is super important!!!!

You are not trying to stretch yourself… you are trying to teach yourself how to allow a foreign object in and then compress the object with your vaginal walls. This will allow you to stay “tight” regardless of the size of the object.


You are “introducing” a foreign body into your body. Give your body a chance to get to know it’s new dance partner.


Keep using the half inch twisting and untwisting method until the nodules at the base of the toy meets your clitoris.
Now you can play “twist-her.”


Just like in yoga… Pay attention to your heartbeat and breathing rhythms.


This skill is akin to the finger warm up exercises of a piano player.


Breathing through the body, slowly matching the speed of the toy moving in and out, will help immensely when you learn how to orgasm.


When things get a little too hot, stick the toy back in the ice cubes for a minute.


Use this break time to go to the bathroom and drink a glass of water.
Repeat as necessary.


Notice I never said anything about going jackrabbit fast… that is because fast does not produce the same sensation as slow.


Fast may be great if you have no sensitivity and the only thing you can feel is the “in thrust” momentum. Follow my instructions to be able to feel everything!!! This produces much greater sensitivity and thus, better orgasms.


Being taught how to stay tight will please your partner but it will please you so much more.
Women might giggle about how men were circumcised after birth, removing the 8,000 nerve endings at the head of the penis… desensitizing them.
Maybe this was a good thing to help them last longer.
While I think that is a poorly constructed argument… Having that flap of skin removed does make the area easier to clean.

Men have been giggling, too!
Fast and not being able to feel everything… desensitizes You!
… And that… is missing the mark entirely.

Continues in next post…

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Click your mouse part one

Letter #16
Proper Toy at the Proper Time


Remember when I noted earlier that you never use a vibrating or battery operated toy unless you are with a partner? It is true.


Do not train yourself to orgasm by vibrating with battery operated mechanisms.


First, this technique stops you from teaching your muscles to do the work. Which is where the fun is anyway.


Second, battery operated objects do not produce the best orgasms.


An egg or bullet inside you or a battery operated toy on your clitoris while a solid object is inside you will make things more enjoyable… When used sparingly!


There are times when you don’t want some mechanical piece of junk messing up a love-making experience so do not use mechanical toys in training. They are an accessory not a staple.


Ben-wa balls were the vaginal training tools of our ancestors. You would put them inside you and move them around with your own muscles. They Are pretty cool.


Ben-wa balls up inside you while you sit on a Sybian or Harley Davidson can be quite a treat. (Don’t fall off the back of the Harley!)


Ben-wa balls are usually made of metal and have some unique inlaid designs on them. They come in various weights and sizes. Amazon sells them… But as a starter… There are better options.


Most vibrators and dildos are made of some form of plastic or new fangled “safe latex”, “medical grade silicone” or other skin-like material.


You know what I’ve said about non-natural materials… do not use this stuff.


Ok… I do say use condoms. Especially with people and if someone brings you a toy that is not still in the package. (At a party or your new significant other wants to use this thing they just pulled out of the secret hiding space in their closet… who knows where that thing has been or if roaches or rats have peed on it.)


Tupperware as the example…
When a person buys Tupperware the product is initially very rigid. Over time it gets softer and less rigid.


Check in your kitchen cupboard and feel the rigidity of the various plastic containers… gauge the difference between the older ones versus newer ones of the same brand.
Plastic breaks down. Especially when heated!


Guess what happens to those plastic molecules in a food container… those molecules end up in your food.
Guess what happens to a plastic toy you stick in you… it breaks down over time.


The plastic stinks and you will stink, too.


Even the “medical grade silicone” toys I have used… had the silicone sluffing off at some point. (For instance… the veins on a life-like male member were rubbed off by use. Pits were left in the material.)


If you use medical grade silicone toys expect to throw them out about every 3 months.
Wash them ten times before you use them. Get the slick package crap off before using a toy the first time. Never just take it out of the package and stick it in you.
Any pits in the silicone will harbor microscopic bacteria.


I can give you a disadvantage for every material that is not natural.


Bare, unpolished Wood will give you splinters… but hopefully you are smarter than to put anything rough inside you.


My favorite toys are glass. The drawbacks to glass are rigidity and possible shattering… but if you purchase good quality, solid glass insert-able objects and don’t use them as darts… I have never had one break.

All training toys should have a handle at the base. You will need this initially, as a way to control the toy.


When you choose a regular use toy… get ones with flat bases that can stand on their own. Choose one from that company I mentioned in the first couple of letters. The one that makes second-to-none glass!

Flat, wide bases are easier to keep from getting pushed too far inside you (the base keeps them from going in) and if you need to put a suction cup on it for use in the bathtub… ya can.

Part two… How to pick the correct training toy to train your box for best results… Continued in next post.

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