Letter # 13 part 6 Now you have the ability to hear the music in a physical sense and your body should have some form of muscle contraction response.
You should also have the ability to push and pull a toy in and out of you without the use of your hands.
I don’t think you will be able to spin the toy sans hands but if you figure it out, would you please drop me a note and tell me how you figured it out.
Now combine the music to the in and out motion of the toy sans hands. Why did I want you to do a hands-on twisting toy montage first?
That application teaches the muscles that all the areas along the walls are necessary for inclusion.
The twisting is different than just a push or pull… or laying there with a vibrator.
Letter #13 Part 7 Oh the Places I did Go Dr. Seuss
Sticking with The Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairy and Nutcraker Ball theme, let’s make up some new corresponding words to the tune. Visualize the notes making a physical act with a partner.
The Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairy is not the first dance in the ballet so if properly executed with a partner, everything in the music before this is foreplay and this song would begin actual copulative practice.
Now sing these phrases to the Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairy tune ala Julie Andrews in the Sound of Music… because these are more of my favorite things.
First four bars: Cat crawl over to your man, on all fours, slow as you can.
Bars five to… First you straddle your partner, dripping wet, slide it in, up and down, up and down, stay at the top, with a little twist, shimmy to the base… 360 with your hips, up and down, up and down, lick belly nipple to armpit, shimmy to the base…
Ok you should be at the 30 second mark at this point. There’s about 2:10 left to go… but why should I tell you how to choreograph your sex… put your own spin into your movement. Own this.
In case you’ve never seen multiple versions of The Nutcracker Ballet, just about every choreographer makes this ballet their own. I have only witnessed two troupes emulate the original Russian ballet. As such, take liberties with my suggestions but keep them within reason.
I will have you swinging from the ceiling soon enough – but this is not the type of music for tied up situations.
Love you, C. Change
Thank you for the laughter and great technical exercises. Mastering Letter #13 will make a big difference in my sex life.
Now you have the ability to hear the music and interpret those sounds as physical movements. Consequently, if you can squeeze and release to Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairy, You should also have the ability to squeeze your internal vaginal muscles to the rhythm of any song.
Let’s combine the two of those things together with a glass toy and a spot of organic coconut oil.
Sexual Choreography: Listen to the first 30 seconds of the music then see if you can fit the following words to match what the music says to me. Once you get a “handle” on how I physically view/hear/feel the notes and how they correspond to physical movement, try actually doing the choreography.
This is a good second step as there are more levels above this intermediate one which I will discuss with you once you have this well-in-hand.
Let’s go back to the Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairy with some new lyrics. Start by singing these phrases to the Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairy tune ala Julie Andrews in the Sound of Music… because these are a few of my favorite things.
First four bars: From knee up to inner thigh, place cold glass tip to soft warm clit, circle softly,
Bars five to… (“twisting” starts at the melody) Twisting smoothly first go to the right, switch to the left, towards the front and now go to the back, spiiin it out,
Bar nine to… Gently slide in twisting to the left, then the right, now go back to front, swing full circle, use to muscles push it out,
Bar thirteen… Twisting smoothly first go to the right, switch to the left, towards the front and now go to the back, spiiin it out, Slide all the way in, slide all the way out, twisting go back, insiiiiide
Ok you should be at the 30 second mark at this point. There’s about 2:10 left to go… add the toy now that you have some words of instruction and see what happens.
I’ll let you have some fun with this… your own personal creativity should be stimulated by now.
Do you have the fingertip trick down pat? Good. Can you squeeze your internal muscles to the music?
Just start by tightening and releasing to the notes.
Once you get a “constricting handle” for physically interpreting (view/hear/feel) the notes and how they correspond to physical movement, try actually creating muscle pumping choreography. This is a good second step as there are more levels above this intermediate one which I will discuss with you once you have this well understood.
If you do have the sheet music handy… Open the link below and watch the music.
I don’t know how many times I performed in ballet scores of The Nutcracker from the mind of Tchaikovsky. After about the 1000th time hearing the Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairy, one tends to hear this in their sleep.
As an adult, my significant other would give my best girlfriend and me tickets to go see the latest visiting troupe do the performance.
I often wondered why men found the ballet so boring. Were they not musically inclined? Did the notes not whisper sweet nothings in their mind? Were the long legs flinging in the air not a turn on? All those pretty sparkle costumes wrapped around svelte contortionist bodies unable to ignite some part of the sexual brain?
Ballet and Opera, in my world, were symphonies with visuals. Who can’t be moved hearing a harp?
What if those who prefer a good mud-wrestling match over a ballet just need a mental perspective nudge into novel culture to tie those brain connecting dendrites in new ganglia patterns? Maybe if they thought of music the same way I did, going to the ballet, would be a much more entertaining process.
I know I talked about classical music and sex in Rhythm and Sex, (Letter #13 part 1). If you are having any trouble independently moving body parts to the music, take a look at the prima ballerina of any ballet or winners of talent, pole and dancing shows. For fun, let me give you a peek into my sexually deranged mind. I have an inkling this may help you get “the gist” of the grind in a new and enjoyable way.
Follow the series of the letters, in which I will explain a logical methodology for breaking the whole into pieces you can master. (Initially by yourself, with a toy and then a partner… crawl, walk, then run.)
Start with your ears and fingers: Listen to the first 30 seconds of Tchaikovsky’s Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairy.
Link below to sheet music to visualize this while hearing it if you don’t have a copy handy. 8notes.com
Practice idea number one: Let’s start by opening the palm of your left hand and tapping the notes you hear at the time you hear them on the left hand with the right hand.
Were you able to tap in the exact same spot the whole time or did you move the point of tap around on the palm? If you had the exacting ability to hit the same spot over and over again, amazing!
Practice idea number two: Let’s take this rhythm challenger to the fingertips. This time, I want you to replay the first 30 seconds of the music and each time you hear a note, gently touch the tip of your index finger on your right hand to the tips of alternating fingers on the left hand.
This practice allows you to hear notes and create a pattern of movement.
Try this again with the fingertips of both hands slightly apart and when you hear the music, touch each set of corresponding fingertips to the other starting with index for the first note, middle finger for the second note, ring finger for the third note, pinky finger for the fourth note and thumb for the fifth note. The sixth note can either be the pinky and the seventh being ring finger or the sixth can be index finger with the seventh being middle finger. It all depends on how dexterous you are.
The inclination will be to use the same finger during the quick repeated notes but I want you to switch finger tip touches for every single note. I don’t need you to assign a letter of the scale for each note to a specific finger because I know you can already do that from your musical instrument training.
Those that never learned to play an instrument should learn how to assign a key per finger and enjoy figuring out which two letters overlap the five finger availability.
What I am asking you to do is a training method you can practice in public that will pay off in spades for great sex later on.
For anyone who had an un-memorable sexual Valentine’s Day coupling or for those who want to add a little spice to life, I invite you to read the Letters2Jamison. Being able to accomplish the training exercises included in the series of Letter #13 will definitely raise your (and your partner’s) sexual bar.
Letter # 13 Part 2 Designed to be pavlovian in nature, advertisers use certain songs to help people remember the product. These catchy little jingles do work. That’s all well and good. In fact, I want you to salivate differently and far more enjoyably than the intended method the marketing guru’s are etching into your mind.
For example, when I saw the Hummer commercial, I slapped my inner thigh and told my partner to lick. One of my best friends saw the same commercial advertising quite differently and went out and bought a Hummer.
If you are like me during the football season, you hate those long commercial breaks. Consider using the method of adding sexual words to the tune as a method of personal entertainment. I know those repetitive car commercials using Vivaldi’s Four Seasons won’t disappoint a creative mind. Your “December to Remember” could anything but the usual holiday cheer.
Adding a few choice repeatable phrases to the end of sentences during a boring lecture or stale church experience has often kept me engaged when I couldn’t really have cared less about the subject matter.
Mentally including the phrase “up the butt” or “in my box” at the end of the speaker’s sentence was a lip biter in some very inappropriate yet hilarious situations. Give it a try the next time you are stuck listening to a live re-enactment of Charlie Brown’s teacher.
Before radio and internet, the great composers wrote the “mood music” of their times. Can you imagine what thoughts were going through the minds of the classical, romantic period master composers when they wrote timeless, epic, sexual tunes? My own concept of get-your-freak-on is probably pretty lame compared to what these Masters composed by candle light.
The original lyrics in the famous christmas carol deck the halls, which was adapted from a brothel house jingle, were originally so inappropriate fa-la-la-la-la was used to replace them.
While we are constantly reminded that our current society is the pinnacle of knowledge – If we compare the iconic hallmarks showcasing the pinnacle of today’s society, (i.e.: Microsoft, Facebook, Instagram, AI, etc.) to historical icons such as Mozart and Beethoven, I actually think we probably lost a step or two.
Master the items from Letter #3 and creating your own lyrics to music in this part of Letter #13 before reading the next part of this letter. Love you, C. Change
Except… The problem is… This really isn’t funny. Its indicative of societal norms and massively unacceptable sexual education.
If I was at lunch with my “come sit by Me and let’s rant a bit” girlfriends, the conversation would flow along these lines…
As I looked down into my newborns eyes I imagined wonderful futures right up to the point where I added, “and you will have a miserable sex life because I have no words of wisdom to give you. When it comes to knowing what is really possible… I want you to be just like the rest of ‘normal society’.”
The bundle of joy closes its eyes and screams, “Oh God, what did I get myself into?” Alas, it’s too late.
Right after Valentines and christmas are the two most popular times when divorce lawyer retention goes up and break-up with no make-up hits peak season.
Attorneys explain “Relationship failures” are chalked up to boundaries and communication fails. (I think there is at least one post in here on the subject matter.)
But instead of learning what makes a woman tick on the inside…females are usually persuaded to find a different mate. (I can smile when I tell you a thousand times when THAT didn’t work.)
Here’s a better solution than emulating that trick… try training what you have.
Two scary questions I have for that group of 16-21 year olds I referenced in the beginning: #1) what tools are you using to experience sexual release? #2) are you laying there as a dead fish expecting a silicone or plastic battery operated device to create a magic explosion some skillful marketing company initmated might happen if you bought their brand name product and used it within the limits of the warranty?
If the answer to question #1 is either: my fingers or glass… Congratualtions!!! You get a gold star. Now… let’s find out what movements aren’t in your quiver.
If the answer to question #2 is Yes to ANY OF IT – oh dear, we have our work cut out for us. I am not surprised you are unhappy with the resulsts. Today is your lucky day – there is a three part post that can get you on-track to smiles. Enjoy the link.
If you are putting together a playlist of great sex music… I put these in my faves. I also have some tips and tricks for using the list that I think you will enjoy.
Prince has never made a song/track that wasn’t, at it’s very core, Music for the sexually inclined. He is my favorite artist.
Ginuwine made a timeless song called Pony. It was almost always my opener at an event. I think you will find Channing Tatum’s Magic Mike movie version quite engaging. The original is a great wake-up next to your partner song and fun before coffee if you change the lyrics “if you’re horny” to “good morning”.
If I was opening a swingers event, or doing a public education session, or perhaps something a little darker at a private venue, I had fun with my choice of sex songs. Prince or Ginuwine was the opener. Car Wash (Rose Royce) or either The Brothers Johnson or the remix with Quincy Jones, Ray Charles and Chaka Kahn’s I’ll Be Good To You was usually my closer. (When I sang that song to myself I was singing those words to my box.)
Madonna (in the later years), Sinead O’Connor (in the earlier years) and Sade also made some wonderful timeless melodies. Thank you to Chrissie Hynde and the Pretenders…Brass In Pocket with confidence is a killer.
More current and upbeat, Bruno Mars has Uptown Funk.
George Clinton and any of his bands, make music to sex by. If you haven’t worked up a sweat by the end of Flashlight by Parliament, something is very wrong.
The one constant in all of this is to have rhythm.
Staying with the beat allows you and your partner the benefit of proper timing.
It is also helpful to learn this trick if you and your partner don’t always have the same tune playing in your heads at the same time. He zigs when you zag and things get bent. Ouch!
4/4 time is always the easiest at roughly 120 bpm for smooth sex.
You can Missy Elliott Work It at speed, half speed, quarter-time or double time without injury.
Syncopated rhythms require a bit more experience as do poorly mixed house or trance music. If you are on the beat… and tempo is abruptly changed… eeeew!
Music is phenomenal for foreplay, the act itself and memories. I actually remember great sexual experiences (and smile) when I hear certain songs.
Oh, did you think I was talking about songs to just go up and down with? Maybe a list of mood music top tens? Nah… that’s beginner stuff. And here is where the concept of allowing the music to take control becomes more than a euphemism.
The music tells you whether to gently run your fingers from the left hip up the lat to the armpit and back down, smack a butt cheek or lick an ear.
I’m sure you have gotten enriched with one to four hours of Classical music on a daily basis, just like I did in my formative years… so lets put that Vivaldi, Rachmaninoff, Bach, Chopin, Brahms, Handel, Schubert, Strauss and your other favorite classical masters to good physical use.
Doing it to Beethoven is as much fun as to Hank Williams. Beethoven is better on a bed or soft surface while Hank is better in a swing. Just my thoughts.
Your body is the symphony. Every instrument a specific body part.
Try sex to an entire Mozart symphony. Start to finish. Stay with the music… you will be surprised at how much of a workout this will create.
Here’s the trick to success…
Use your fingers on the left hand when you hear the piccolo, the right foot with the oboe. Hips move to the violin strings, rib cage matches the French horn… you get the point. Match a single body part for each instrument. When their tune plays… your parts move to the notes.
The act of moving up and down during independent body part additions is conducted by the beat. Crescendo… bigger movements. Change tempo…change position.
I know you’ve got rhythm… you got my DNA in there somewhere… find your flow… get your groove on.
When you master that… you are becoming a master.
I think my personal roots, grounded in R&B and gospel, provide for those slow, sultry, energy connections more than punk or head banging 80s rock but a proficient, well-rounded, sex addict learns to be able to match any beat.
Clubbing was a big thing in my day. I loved to go dance. Way back when, I could be found in a suspended cage above the dance floor in my 6” stiletto heels with an equally scantily clad male stripper behind me. The early precursor to the chicks with fuzzy boots and glow sticks on the wood podiums today at raves. I loved getting paid to slither with another to the beat above an audience.
Baptists are correct…Dancing is sex on your feet.
A great dance partner is going to be great in bed. If they can parkour to the rhythm… it’s a bonus!
Some transitions can be tricky if your partner doesn’t have your flexibility.
Once you learn how to move, you should be able to travel in-Congress (coupled) from inside the door, through the den, across all surfaces in the kitchen, up the stairs, into the bedroom and into the tub without separating or missing a stroked beat.
Sex, at least for me and hopefully for you, will involve all the senses and all of your body parts during all of the experience. “All in” isn’t just a saying.
Go to the piano bench and pull out a few sheets of music. Work with your classical favorites… you will stay busy for awhile.
While I talked about this as a two person activity… at your age… a glass toy with a dollop of coconut oil and a few hours of internal crunches/kegel exercises with external body manipulation to Tchaikovsky should provide a world of stimulation possibilities.
Keep the core strong. I couldn’t help but giggle after proofreading this. You will know why, once you master this art. Being able to independently move body parts to the rhythm of a classical symphony with a partner who can do the same is about as common as the two pole dancers at the start of this post.
Enjoy my music selections and as always… Love you,