Letter #2 Part 8
Who NOT to pick…
I took the stance that it was acceptable to test the waters and have sex with people that I was interested in… but I changed the terms.
I decided the pool of available candidates should be culled from what was available to only what I found intriguing.
As a standard on my basic rules/hard limit list that has definitely kept me off the basic bitch list, I refused to have sex with men that I knew were married. Make this rule one of your core ground rules. It is a red line for me.
Why… For what it’s worth… I believe in love and marriage. I never want to be second best, The other woman, that thing on the side, where you go when you are not happy at home, alone during the holidays because he is with his family… you get the point.
Second fiddle is not cool and not where I ever want to be.
Be in relationships with healthy people who do not make you swim in their sewer.
Also… you may not believe in karma… but I have seen enough to know it is real. I would never want to be the one who had their soul mate stolen….
Which leads me to a whole “Ashley Madison” category… adults often act like children and when their children see their parent act this way… the kids think this behavior is acceptable.
If you are cheating… the person you share your roof with is NOT your soul mate.
The definition of a soul mate is one who completes you. You searching elsewhere to get “needs/wants fulfilled” is the antithesis of a complete relationship. Stop being weak.
To the parents… if you are not happy… get a divorce!
Get in healthy relationships. Show yourself and your kids what a healthy relationship is!
Staying together for money… a reason I have heard so many times it is ridiculously pathetic… just shows how miserable and shallow the two of you really are.
Not only would I hate to be your kid, being given those kinds of value systems, but whenever I met someone I liked who was married and willing to cheat… I knew for sure they would cheat on me sooner or later.
Why get in a relationship with that as what you see at the end of the tunnel? I’m worth more than that and Jamison… you are worth more than what a cheater has to offer, also.
I had a coach who once told me, “Second best is just first place for losers.”
That statement was not only appropriate for sports, it is apropos when it comes to great sex and relationships.
I never met that magical Disney Prince in the real world, so I learned how to make myself fabulous.
In an effort to help you avoid quick, boring or painful experiences while testing the sexual waters, avoid the mistakes that I made and learn how to click your own mouse.
Finding excitement on the road less travelled would put me on a path down a very deep and dark rabbit hole which I will talk about in a later letter.
But for now, just know the person responsible for your orgasm is you.
Let’s get to figuring out how to make yourself happy. You were born with body parts that you should know how to use.
I don’t think the learning your own body is a sin or dirty or any negative thing.
In fact, there are Zero references in the Bible saying masturbating is a sin.
The church made that up!!! Just like it made up indulgences… Making a payment to get into heaven.
There is no reference to mastubation as a sin in my Bible or Koran…both of which I have read cover to cover more than once. (Just for kicks… In the letters to the church at Corinth… It says there is only one winner in the race.)
(No matter how many times a lie is repeated… repeating a lie does not make it true!)
You learned how to use your ears to hear, your mouth to speak, your eyes to see, your feet to walk, your hands with which to grab.
Why not learn how to use all of you. I will support you in this decision from afar, if you want to find out what your Creator gave you as a gift… one that was meant to be used often and correctly.
Whew! Lots to think about. Thanks for not going to work and choosing to educate me instead. I'd like to support your continued writing efforts.