Click your mouse part two

Letter #17
Picking a Glass Toy for Training

One of my favorite toys is this little piece of glass with a bulbous top (start with the 1″ wide variety) that narrows to a small shaft with a wide circular base containing bumpy nodules. It has a round handle below the base.

This basic shape comes in a variety of colors, shapes and sizes. The 3” depth is best for training… vaginally or anally.

Use the 1”-1.5” width tip that is rounded… not the pointy one. The shaft width for this size is usually ¾”.

You want an initial toy that has some distinct variation between the head and the shaft so that you can train your internal parts to “suck down” on the entire unit… to conform to the shape of the toy.

The whole toy only needs a dime sized drop of organic coconut oil to be properly lubed.

Set up a wide mouth glass with ice cubes and a little water beside your “space.”
This is what you put the toy in when it is not inside you.

Ever wonder why they call it “hot pussy”… you are about to find out.

You will probably like the cold sensation on the tip.

At the speed of your heartbeat… and using alternating hands (you need to be ambidextrous to be properly balanced) slowly twist the toy in in one-half inch increments and then twist it back out.

As you twist the toy in… breathe in.

Breathe in for a count of 8 (or four heartbeats).

Reverse the process at the same speed while you exhale.

Continue to match breath and heartbeat.

Allow your internal sensory skin to feel what is going on.

The twisting motion should cause your internal skin to conform to the toy.

This is super important!!!!
Slow is super important!!!!

You are not trying to stretch yourself… you are trying to teach yourself how to allow a foreign object in and then compress the object with your vaginal walls. This will allow you to stay “tight” regardless of the size of the object.

You are “introducing” a foreign body into your body. Give your body a chance to get to know it’s new dance partner.

Keep using the half inch twisting and untwisting method until the nodules at the base of the toy meets your clitoris.
Now you can play “twist-her.”

Just like in yoga… Pay attention to your heartbeat and breathing rhythms.

This skill is akin to the finger warm up exercises of a piano player.

Breathing through the body, slowly matching the speed of the toy moving in and out, will help immensely when you learn how to orgasm.

When things get a little too hot, stick the toy back in the ice cubes for a minute.

Use this break time to go to the bathroom and drink a glass of water.
Repeat as necessary.

Notice I never said anything about going jackrabbit fast… that is because fast does not produce the same sensation as slow.

Fast may be great if you have no sensitivity and the only thing you can feel is the “in thrust” momentum. Follow my instructions to be able to feel everything!!! This produces much greater sensitivity and thus, better orgasms.

Being taught how to stay tight will please your partner but it will please you so much more.
Women might giggle about how men were circumcised after birth, removing the 8,000 nerve endings at the head of the penis… desensitizing them.
Maybe this was a good thing to help them last longer.
While I think that is a poorly constructed argument… Having that flap of skin removed does make the area easier to clean.

Men have been giggling, too!
Fast and not being able to feel everything… desensitizes You!
… And that… is missing the mark entirely.

Continues in next post…

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Thank you for sharing! This new understanding is going to make my relationship better. I would like to support your continued educational efforts.



Click your mouse part one

Letter #16
Proper Toy at the Proper Time

Remember when I noted earlier that you never use a vibrating or battery operated toy unless you are with a partner? It is true.

Do not train yourself to orgasm by vibrating with battery operated mechanisms.

First, this technique stops you from teaching your muscles to do the work. Which is where the fun is anyway.

Second, battery operated objects do not produce the best orgasms.

An egg or bullet inside you or a battery operated toy on your clitoris while a solid object is inside you will make things more enjoyable… When used sparingly!

There are times when you don’t want some mechanical piece of junk messing up a love-making experience so do not use mechanical toys in training. They are an accessory not a staple.

Ben-wa balls were the vaginal training tools of our ancestors. You would put them inside you and move them around with your own muscles. They Are pretty cool.

Ben-wa balls up inside you while you sit on a Sybian or Harley Davidson can be quite a treat. (Don’t fall off the back of the Harley!)

Ben-wa balls are usually made of metal and have some unique inlaid designs on them. They come in various weights and sizes. Amazon sells them… But as a starter… There are better options.

Most vibrators and dildos are made of some form of plastic or new fangled “safe latex”, “medical grade silicone” or other skin-like material.

You know what I’ve said about non-natural materials… do not use this stuff.

Ok… I do say use condoms. Especially with people and if someone brings you a toy that is not still in the package. (At a party or your new significant other wants to use this thing they just pulled out of the secret hiding space in their closet… who knows where that thing has been or if roaches or rats have peed on it.)

Tupperware as the example…
When a person buys Tupperware the product is initially very rigid. Over time it gets softer and less rigid.

Check in your kitchen cupboard and feel the rigidity of the various plastic containers… gauge the difference between the older ones versus newer ones of the same brand.
Plastic breaks down. Especially when heated!

Guess what happens to those plastic molecules in a food container… those molecules end up in your food.
Guess what happens to a plastic toy you stick in you… it breaks down over time.

The plastic stinks and you will stink, too.

Even the “medical grade silicone” toys I have used… had the silicone sluffing off at some point. (For instance… the veins on a life-like male member were rubbed off by use. Pits were left in the material.)

If you use medical grade silicone toys expect to throw them out about every 3 months.
Wash them ten times before you use them. Get the slick package crap off before using a toy the first time. Never just take it out of the package and stick it in you.
Any pits in the silicone will harbor microscopic bacteria.

I can give you a disadvantage for every material that is not natural.

Bare, unpolished Wood will give you splinters… but hopefully you are smarter than to put anything rough inside you.

My favorite toys are glass. The drawbacks to glass are rigidity and possible shattering… but if you purchase good quality, solid glass insert-able objects and don’t use them as darts… I have never had one break.

All training toys should have a handle at the base. You will need this initially, as a way to control the toy.

When you choose a regular use toy… get ones with flat bases that can stand on their own. Choose one from that company I mentioned in the first couple of letters. The one that makes second-to-none glass!

Flat, wide bases are easier to keep from getting pushed too far inside you (the base keeps them from going in) and if you need to put a suction cup on it for use in the bathtub… ya can.

Part two… How to pick the correct training toy to train your box for best results… Continued in next post.


Thanks for the great ideas! I'd like to send you a gift, too.


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