Introduction to the Letters

Aloha and Thank You for visiting.
I’ve got a lot of great things about #sex and #orgasm to share with you.

If this is your first read, welcome. You are going to find a lot of answers you won’t find anywhere else.

If this is not the first post you read, I am glad you enjoyed what you learned so far.

The #FoodForThought won’t be disappointing…

This blog is divided into the following categories: sex be religion, teenage experiences (drugs, drinking, first time, condoms, etc.), STD/sti (bathing, removal of an unplanned “accident”), sex experiences/BDSM (some are how to and some are the kind that make penthouse forum blush and normal/vanilla people pass out), toy training and orgasm exercises (how to make g-spots, how to pick training toys for o/g/a/s/m spots (those are the actual medical terms), an index finger can touch your ovary, why some guys bend to the left and other useful tidbits) and finally relationships/boundaries/communication (probably the most important items of necessity).

The original letters (about 200 of them) were written in succession. If the post has a “Letter #” then it was part of the original series. If the post does not contain “Letter #” at the beginning of the post, then that was written for everyone who is not my niece. (She would have some background the rest of you don’t.)

Each Letter builds upon knowledge gained in a previous letter… much like a basic textbook. The low number letters start with the basics that most people should hear when they are pre-teens and glides into high school, college, adult world and underworld subject matter in the 200 series.

Most of the Letters are about how to train your sexual muscles to orgasm the way your body was designed to achieve. Getting things out of order can be dangerous. Follow the posts starting with the earliest post first if you really want to lay a proper foundation. (Pun intended.)
Seriously, crawl before you attempt to run and end up tripping and falling. It hurts. I know.

Sex… is a good thing… especially when it is done well and for the right reasons.

It’s a gnosis. Why? I figured out the best orgasms are: 1) spiritual in nature, 2) are in a monogamous loving relationship, 3) with a partner you knew instantly was your soul mate (even before introducing yourself), 4) require you to know how to operate you before entering said relationship 5) without a doubt the best reason to exist on earth and 6) usually won’t happen until you are in your thirties.

(Yep, it takes lots of practice to train those muscles correctly. Babies born with legs can’t walk for about a year. What makes you think a pubescent teen is going to magically know what real love is or how to orgasm at your optimal potential when your junk isn’t even properly trained until your late twenties or early thirties?). It’s no surprise thirty is about the time people realize they chose the wrong mate and start looking for sexual fulfillment in new and undiscovered ways… hmmmm.

Enjoy the Letters to Jamison.
Some of them may answer questions you never thought to ask.
Share with your friends… and maybe some enemies you’d like to have as friends.
Throw $1.00 into the hat and support if you feel you learned something of value. (Here at the bottom of a post or at patreon because that is how I know the choice to make the Letters available was helpful for you.)
With love, great orgasms, healthy relationships and Aloha,
C. Change


Thank you


Weaponized Sex

Letter #10
Weaponized Sex
Women with real power do not (need to) weaponize sex.

Using sex as a weapon is an ugly thing that will destroy you on the inside.
What do I mean by using sex as a weapon?

Any time sex is withheld to get something or is used to obtain something… Sex is a weapon.

When someone gets knocked up to trap a partner… That is sex as a weapon.
I don’t know anyone who got knocked up to keep a man that had a good relationship or is still married.
Nobody likes being trapped.

Saying, “You do ‘xyz’ for me and I will give you some…” Is sex as a weapon.
Sex for money is sex as a weapon.

Most baby mama drama and paycheck children are the result of sex as a weapon.
(A paycheck child is a kid who is created or used to obtain child support.)
Sex as blackmail and sex for job promotion also fall into the “weapon” category.

There are tons of examples of sex as a weapon throughout history.
Henry the 8th or any other lineage needing a male heir.
A common heir between two countries often stopped wars.

The popular cable show Game of Thrones is a perfect example of sex as a weapon. Just about Any use of sex in this show is what our society is taught is acceptable.
However, if these actor portrayals of common sexual real-life situations were appropriate for healthy relationships, I would not be listing them under this heading.

Get-even-sex and make-up-sex both fall into the category called “sex as a weapon.”
There are lots more examples but I am not going to make an exhaustive list here.

Don’t be fooled…
All sex-as-a-weapon comes from a lack of power… Not strength!

These horrible games listed above dim your light, make you weak emotionally, while using sex for evil… Not good. (The devil is in the details on this one!)

A prostitute once told me, “Don’t ever have sex for money… You lose a piece of your soul every time you turn a trick.”
I believed the person. They were right. Gold diggers are just justifying their prostitute status.

No lawyer wants me to tell you this … but later in life, if you find that you have been cheated on… Don’t get angry. Walk away. A lengthy legal battle for assets, aka getting financially even, is just a waste of time. You are wasting valuable time, stuck in the drama of rehashing the past, instead of finding a healthy partner and better life. (The biblical parable reads… Nobody who puts his hand to the plow and looks behind him is fit for the Kingdom of God.)

Sex for all the wrong reasons is just that… It is sex for all the wrong reasons. Period.

I’m pretty sure this is where the fornication and adultery sins come into play… weaponized sex.
I do not believe sex for true love keeps anyone out of a positive eternity. I strongly believe sex for the wrong reasons will cause great pain here and to the eternal soul.

If you want to watch an A-list cast movie that illustrates, quite keenly, how sex for the wrong reasons can keep you from having a great life, check out The Devil’s Advocate. It’s a mid 90s movie that honestly portrays the conundrum of not being able to serve God and Mammon at the same time. Sex is probably the easiest method to get anybody off the good path. The last 30 seconds of this movie are the best… along with a few of the devil’s outstandingly accurate monologues illuminating today’s “model” behavior.

There may be a ton of lust in these “sex for the wrong reasons” situations, but there is no love.
In the end, loveless sexual experiences are hollow.
Besides, you can get a lot more fullness in life, that is far better, by going down the right path with a pure heart filled with good intentions that turn into good acts.

Don’t cheat yourself out of the greatest possibilities by settling for what the media, divorced or miserable people say is right.

Love you,

C. Change