Letter #3 Part 6

Experts say that not all women have a g-spot.

Prima facie, this is true.

Because there is so much confusion surrounding this issue, I’m going to do my best to relate this information in a very non-technical way so everybody gets it.

For the mechanics in the room… a woman’s vagina is much like starting a diesel engine.

The glow plugs of a diesel motor have to get warmed up before the motor will crank.

The heater or electric current that heats the glow plugs is foreplay. You know your foreplay worked when you are both dripping wet.

The glow plugs are like the g-spot.

Once the glow plugs are operational, the heated diesel fuel can spark, the motor can crank and then you can step on the gas and get to the destination. Got it? Good!

So, how does one create a g-spot?

A g-spot is an area that has been rubbed so often on a regular basis that it is more sensitive than the areas around it.

Not unlike a blister, but far less painful, and actually quite fun, the sensitive area fills with fluid.

Essentially, you create your own internal pleasure centers.

You may also create as many as you want.

You can put them where you want.

(Just like a guy can create a bend to the left… you may create an internal g-spot anywhere you want it.)

For example…
If your partner has a 2″ penis… And assuming you have sex regularly (3 times a week), chances are that your g-spot will be right inside the inner labia.

If the partner has a 6″ penis and you only do it doggie style, your g-spot will be on either the anterior or posterior side of the vaginal wall about 3″ inside you. Anterior or posterior will be determined by how much you arch your back.

If your partner is 10″, expect your happy place to reside right below the uterine opening.

If your partner rubs your clit with every stroke… Then this will become the most active region.

Over time, you can use your hand, toys, blue jeans or acceptable humans to create new pleasure centers and make them accessible at will.

Different partners of different bend angles and sizes will create different happy spot locations.

The one big thing I learned was that it takes rubbing… not vibrating to make a g-spot.

Once you’ve made the spot, you can vibrate it… but I was never able to create one by vibration… and trust me… I tried.

Most females stop at zero or one, maybe two happy spots.

If you decide…later in life… to go the route of multiple partners at the same time in separate holes or multiple partners at the same time in the same hole… Having multiple g-spots will prove incredibly advantageous for multiple orgasms.

The graffenburg spot is small at first but as the area is rubbed, swelling occurs.

Even with everyday use, I find it may take up to an hour for my g-spot area to go from flat dime to peanut size to the size of a hard boiled egg.

For me, it takes about an hour to get my happy spots out of bed and ready to work for my enjoyment.

Once mine get big, it takes a long time for the swelling to go down.

As long as these spots are swollen… it is super easy to orgasm. Ridiculously easy to orgasm.

Multiple orgasms can mean about a hundred or more… not 3. (Nobody does 1,000 push ups on day one and nobody has 100 orgasms on their first successful attempt at having multiple orgasms.)

Once swollen, any happy spot is super easy to see on camera.

When I’m not turned on… A camera inside me reveals absolutely NOTHING! I look flat like everyone else.

And this is why the medical professionals cannot seem to agree on where the happy spot is or why some people have them when others don’t or even how many spots one can have or what they should be called: g-spot, m-spot, s-spot… but You know what’s what.

Teenagers reading this… Learn these exercises but Don’t try to tell this to an adult or OBGYN as they have been preconditioned by society to believe: teens don’t have sex before marriage, virgins will magically figure this out, none of this is possible or that the studies conducted by Masters and Johnson in the 1960s are the definitive work to explain orgasms for all humanity. (If any of that arcane bullshit was true… I would not be putting this on the internet… because we would still be writing on loose-leaf paper with lead pencils.)

If most females need a good hour of palpitation in order for the happy spot to want to join the fun, but sex with their partner lasts less than ten minutes… I don’t think many women have ever known what is possible.

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Letter #3 Part 5

All sex organs are muscles.

Your brain (all 3 of them), your heart, your mouth, your vagina, etc… These are muscles. Use them.

If you never teach the muscle to be used… How can it perform?

A guy who hasn’t had sex in five years is probably going to have some trouble getting it up.

When muscles are not used, they atrophy. Viagara anyone?

Babies, at birth, can’t walk or hold their heads up.

The muscles are there but they have never been used.

Watch babies learn to walk.

It is a time consuming process that does not happen at the speed of the refresh rate on your cell phone.

Teenagers can’t orgasm until puberty.

Even then, one needs to develop the muscles to have the skills to provide benefits.

Think of it this way… You can ski the bunny slopes or you can be an X-Games gold medalist.

Sex is the same.

How well do you want to perform?

How much time are you willing to devote to your performance ability?

Let’s talk about how to create your first g-spot so you will have some tools to play with.

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Letter #3 Part 6
Experts say that not all women have a g-spot.




Letter # 101 Am I in a healthy relationship?

Do you know how to tell when you are not with the right person?
I will cut to the chase and answer this one for you.

A relationship is OVER the first time you look at someone else and wonder what it would be like to be with that other person instead of the one you are with.

Something about your current relationship is not meeting all of your needs.

Modern society has all sorts of excuses for why you stay where you are and deal with the problem and in so doing you end up violating another major boundary… being honest with yourself.

The popular excuse is “I love this person so I’m going to work it out.”

This may stem from the concept that a divorce was almost impossible to obtain prior to the mid 1960s… It wasn’t socially acceptable until around 1980…

Riiiiight. Sure you love your partner. You love them like I love chocolate.

There are 8 different words to describe 8 different types of love in the Bible.

Unless you had that “hit-in-the-head-with-a-baseball-bat” type of love I discussed earlier… (2) things: (1) then the titillating feeling of finding a different partner is your inner knowing that the person you are with …isn’t the best match and (2) when you are really in love, the way it is meant to be, you don’t notice anyone but your partner.

People get into wrong relationships all the time and spend the rest of their life trying to make it work.

Who are they trying to please? It’s obviously not the unhappy person in the mirror.

Even a monkey in a laboratory quits trying to put a square peg in a round hole after a certain number of tries. It’s the job of the scientists behind the mirror evaluating the monkey to keep track of the number of tries attempted before the monkey realizes effort after foolishness does not pay off.

I do think some monkeys are smarter than people in certain situations.
Take a gander at the bonobo monkey tribe. A matriarch dominant society that settles their differences using sex. It works, too.

What I want you to realize is that you are responsible for everything that happens in your life.


Technically the word means the ability to respond in a given situation.

I’ve noticed most people think they are responsible.

Even those adult individuals who have sex with toddlers, people who knowingly transmit deadly diseases, the banker who forecloses a house and kicks a family out on the street on Christmas Eve because they are late on the payment, the reporter who refused to do due diligence and parrots a lie, just a few examples of a terribly long list that includes you and me because even we Think we are responsible. Welcome to life… we all fall short of being responsible at some point.

I’m going to circle back to boundaries and communication.
Without appropriate boundaries and communication skills to enforce those boundaries, we end up in less than stellar situations.

Often, we don’t even realize when our own behavior crosses one of our own espoused boundaries.

A perfect example.

The example of that guy ran a red light and hit me… you didn’t have to be in that place at that time.

You could have been somewhere else. I promise you that the small voice inside told you ahead of time to be aware of your surroundings.

Why weren’t you listening? Was the radio more important?

Did your thoughts taking you out of here and now get in the way of being present? Was there some drama from another experience playing in your head that kept you from listening to yourself?

It really doesn’t matter what the subject matter noun is… this is one of the critical life lessons every person needs to accept, understand and thus… be responsible.

There is no such thing as a no fault accident in life.

If you are not present, you are 100% at fault. If you are present you bear half the responsibility for not getting out of the way.

You bear 100% of the responsibility for not taking action to create the solution appropriate for your needs.

This requires communication skills. With yourself! … and with everyone else involved!

Adopt this now and your entire life will be better for it.

Fail to recognize this as a basic premise for life and you will just keep giving away your power. You will keep living in co-dependent relationship disasters and wondering where and when it “all went wrong” while you erroneously look for something or someone else to blame.

Go look in the mirror. Fix that!

You can only attract that which you are.

Healthy people have healthy relationships.
Unhealthy people have unhealthy relationships.

Guess what… healthy people don’t get into relationships with unhealthy people. They stick with their own kind.

To have a healthy relationship, YOU must get healthy first!

If you can’t stand someone else’s bad behavior look and see what commensurate same rotten behavior you have.

Ok, your partner is a drunk and you are not. You are a nagging bitch. Quit pointing fingers. The problem is the same.

The outward problem appears different but the underlying cause is the exact same. You are both morbidly unhappy. The final outcome is the same.

Neither party wants to be around the other one when their inability to cope with the underlying issue results in ugly behavior.

You both have a behavior that needs less positive reinforcement and a life that needs a new skill set.

Circle back to boundaries and communication.

Life is about boundaries and communication.

Master these two items and life will be much more enjoyable.

Letter #3 Part 2

How many g-spots do I have?

The real answer is “I have no idea how many g-spots you have but I have 4 distinct pleasure centers inside me.”

I’ve been inside a lot of women and on top, below, beside, behind or in front of a lot of men.

The one guarantee is that no two are exactly alike.

Yes, it is a penis or vagina but they are shaped slightly differently.

The individual has unique quirks that set them off. What works with one may not have any affect on another.

As you look at men you will discover that some penises are straight, some curve, some bend left or right, up or down, etc.
Have you ever wondered why?

Male babies are born with unbent, un-curved penises… so how did they develop these directional augmentations?

Ask the male to masturbate for you. You will have your answer.

Playing with yourself has a pattern.

The muscles of the sexual organs will conform to the repeated patterns they are encouraged to follow.

If he yanks it to the left… it’s gonna bend to the left.

If he spends his life tucking it in his pants a certain way, the penis will conform to that curve.

I am often appalled at the medical community’s ability to financially capitalize on a behavior that is completely normal and call it a condition that needs repair. I also get a bit mortified when the medical community attempts to hide or obfuscate vital information that would help an individual, but not be financially profitable.

Even the drug company website to help men with Peyronie’s disease says to take their drug while doing exercises to straighten a penis curved more than 30 degrees.

If a bent dick guy wants a straight dick… learn to tug from the opposite direction.

In my opinion, they don’t need a drug to make a dick weak so it can be tweaked. If someone has erectile dysfunction… their penis muscles are already weak.

Think of it this way… male ED is the same as a loose pussy.

It ain’t no fun… but there are exercises to whip that floppy flaccid mess into shape so you/they/he/she/it can enjoy what has been missing.

Incidentally, a bent penis can be very beneficial in certain positions… but that is another letter.

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Finding out what makes you tick…


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Letter#3 Medical terminology

Letter #3 Medical terminology…

Go to web md or a similar doctor site and read / look at the pictures of your body’s anatomical structure.

It won’t show you a g-spot, m-spot, s-spot or other fun box spot. (Probably because the experts can’t agree on most of this. Later in this letter I will explain in glorious detail why, too.)

Viewing the medical anatomy color images will give you the location terminology for a bartholin’s gland, skene’s gland and the other openings that exude fluid between your legs.

There are four separate places where fluid can come out between the thighs of a female… not just two!

When you were a child, as all children do, you explored your body. As a young child, I would assume… Like most kids… You were told not to continue playing with your private parts.

Now that they are developing into their adult forms… Its time to get to know you!

The female body…
Decide what you want your little love box to look like. Do things that help keep that shape. Being a tight-hole snob, I have a few ideas I will share with you…

Look at some xxx porn sites specifically to see what other vaginas look like with time and use. Some are pretty scary. Some look like they could take flight. Some look like objects could get lost in there.

The hole should always close after the object used is withdrawn. If it does not… then that means someone has not been doing their kegel exercises.

I love digging around on WebMD and reading medical journals to see what the professionals are talking about and telling their patients but holy cow… Could these writers be more vague or flat misleading when it comes to things that could greatly benefit sexual experience without buying proprietary drugs? Probably not… that is how they make their money.

To learn how to do proper kegel exercises to learn how to control an orgasm… whether you are a man or woman… the simplest method is to use your internal muscles to stop the flow of urine when taking a piss.

Nobody can show you this so start by just pinching down and stopping the flow of fluid when you pee.

Your body knows how to do this subconsciously. You need to bring that subconscious action to the conscious part of your mind so you can use that talent at will.

Next step… achieve the command ability to stop the wizz and hold your muscles taught for three seconds, release the flow for three seconds, stop the flow for three seconds and continue doing that as a regular practice until your entire bladder is evacuated.

That process uses your internal muscles.

The paragraph above is how it was explained to me and how I learned to isolate the internal muscles and start strengthening them.

Kegel exercises, where you can hold for ten second intervals, strengthen the muscles that hold the vaginal hole as well as the urethra closed.

It should not matter what size object is going in and out of your vagina… the hole should always close after use.

A loose pussy is one that is desensitized. That means… you don’t feel much. You will not orgasm properly this way.

Kegel muscles will help you squirt but those muscles that can be trained for orgasmic fluid loss require different exercises that I will get to at a more appropriate time.

Learn to crawl before you try to run.

Start with holding and releasing your pee stream.

Incidentally, some gmo foods… like Oreos, which I used to eat by the ton, have something in them these days which negatively impact the brain’s ability to control bladder function and use of the kegel exercise muscles.

Since I love my orgasms and ability to not piss myself in public… I quit eating Oreo cookies. Problem was solved.

Then I got the bright idea to cut out all fast food… Mickey D’s, booger king, taco ding dong and the like. Wow! What a difference it made. I have enjoyed the totally noticeable results.

Next item…
Don’t pull on your outer labia as they will elongate. Push to keep things small… Don’t pull. You will get the same tingly feeling with a pushing rub that you do with pulling but the long term visual will be different.

Let’s say I’m too late in giving you this information and you have been tugging on your labia since birth.

Don’t consider having your labia reduced as this is where the nerve endings exist that make sex really fun.

I just told you how to make the hole tighter and the stretched labia can be taught to tighten down on whatever phallic object you consider for appropriate use.

Medically cutting the nerves off is counter productive.

When porn star Houston developed bat wings and decided to have this procedure to remove the flappy skin done; she was quite proud of the event and subsequent public sale of her divided parts.

This act let me know that she never had a real orgasm, even when she fucked 500 men in a row.

How sad to be considered an expert at sex then prove to the entire world that your enjoyment was faked by gleefully cutting off that which serves the female orgasm!

Geez, I’m living proof one can have obnoxious amounts of sex and never have a stretched out saggy pussy. I guess tight pussy is about technique and exercises.

Even though female mutilation is a standard practice in some cultures, even a butchered vagina can produce some amazing orgasms.

Why… because women are lucky enough to have multiple ways to orgasm.

Some say their erogenous zone is the clitoris while others the labia. Some think it is only internal and others say it is in the mind.

Only ignorant fools will say female gushing orgasms are not possible… maybe they are just envious or possibly just not nearly as educated as they would like you to believe.

I’m gonna vote for physical, emotional and spiritual as a balanced combination to achieve the monumental fluid loss with commensurate shaking and brain melt that produces what I know is possible.

To explain how far away from normally accepted practices this really is… a long, long time ago… I sent one of the most famous “sexperts” a video showing hours of footage with more than one hundred orgasms… all done in one session; expecting him, of all people, to “get it.” Guess what… he thought it was fake.

I don’t know how to make a fake video of a camera up inside a vaginal canal showing growth of a g-spot or fluid loss from vaginal walls during a gushing orgasm. I only know how to show the real truth.

There are probably a couple thousand people who have witnessed this as a live audience members and can attest, along with the physical participants to the validity of what is possible.

Just because the people in your world haven’t done it or don’t think it is possible… just means they haven’t cultivated the talent to operate themselves to their full potential.

Vaginas can take a lot of “punishment.” They stretch to reproduce. They get pounded for fun. I even believe that when Adam and Eve were in the Garden, this was intended as a source of pleasures, not pains.

Biblically speaking, one the big punishments from God was that child birth would be painful as a result of disobedience. Reading between the lines, I believe with good reason, that this reference meant the female vagina was created for much greater enjoyment than what modern society would have us believe. Punishments are generally designed to take away something of great value to change a behavior.

I found an interesting correlation between humans and animals… As our food choices have changed… Organic to GMO… Female sexual organs have evolved in much the same way… And roughly in line… With the animals we eat.

The clitoris has moved from close to the vaginal opening (ladies of the 1970s) to higher up the labia and separate (ladies of the mid 2000s) as if clitoral stimulation is a separate function from intercourse.

At one time the gall bladder served a function. We don’t eat grass anymore so the gall bladder is pretty useless these days.

Evolving is what life on Earth does. Lets evolve to exercises for one of my favorite body parts…

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How many g-spots do I have?


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Letter #2 Part 6

Letter #2 Part 6
Some curses are blessings…

I had learned one of the most important lessons in life… The hard way! Nobody loves you like your mama does.

Given this scenario, I had many choices in front of me.

Instead of destroying other people’s lives with sexual diseases, lies and bs, I decided to start reinventing the person that mattered most, me.

Being and staying clean…
Bathing before and after sex became an integral part of my sex life.

Bathing before sex is important, not just you!

Bathing the other person is important because it gives you the opportunity to look at their sexual organs to see if there is an obvious disease that you might want to avoid.

It is ok to suddenly remember you need to be somewhere else or that you suddenly feel terribly ill and need to leave.

Bathing after sex is important because if you missed something, you now have the opportunity to use soap to cleanse yourself to keep from getting a disease.

This is not foolproof. Stuff may still happen to you. The good news is… Modern technology has cures for just about every STD.

Get over the fact that you got played. Stow your pride and get some antibiotics before you pass whatever it is on to someone else.

If you are going to play in the adult world, then expect a few knocks.

Continued in Letter #2 Part 7

Letter #2 Part 5

Letter #2 Part 5
Teenagers and Adults…

I figured if teenagers were no good at sex then… adults must be.

Why not… It seemed logical to me that an adult would have had more practice and thus better knowing.

Sadly, since current surveys report that roughly 90% of women have never had a real orgasm… My theory was incredibly flawed.

Some blessings are really curses in disguise…

I found myself in the bed of a 27 year old male stripper.

Oh, he had skills no teenager I knew had.

He also gave me a permanent reminder of our experience.

I wasn’t old enough to have a driver’s license but I had my first STD.

He was such a chivalrous individual that he did not tell me he had the disease nor did he respond when I told him what happened.

We never spoke again.

I thought my life was over… but in reality, it was just beginning.

Whether by ignorance or malice… I found that contracting sexual diseases were actually quite easy.

Sexual diseases affect the pretty, ugly, fat, skinny, old and young… Its seems diseases do not discriminate.

It is your job to discriminate… Be ruthless about protecting your body… Because nobody else will.

If I had just gotten up from the bed and taken a shower with soap and water, the diseases I did contract… would have gone down the drain and I would probably never have caught them.

Back then, I did not know that soap kills herpes, warts… Just about everything that is passed by skin contact.

It seems logical… Hospitals and nail salons are sterilized for a reason.

Continued in Letter #2 Part 6