Click Your Mouse part three

Letter #18
Upsizing a Glass Toy

Ok, so now you want a deeper penetration toy than the 3” one. Are you sure you are ready to move up in size?

Can you move the toy in an out of you… At least 1/2” in both directions? Without the use of your hands?

Are you able to insert the toy completely, lay on your back And do 10 sit ups without having the toy go flying out of you? (Before you try this… place a pillow between your knees and do not face a window.)

If they toy flies out… you are practicing to be a dart thrower… not an orgasm queen.

If you can’t control the toy without your hands or during ten friggin sit ups… you are not ready to move up to something larger.

When you are able to control the first trainer toy…. Move up in size… Lengthwise… one inch at a time.

Do not increase in width, yet. Stay with thin things.
Thin helps continue to train your insides to compress.

I always liked the shafts with bumpy nodes on the sides.

The twisting motion is accentuated by the bumps. These bumps also help more of your internal surface to get used to being manipulated.

This is a good thing when creating multiple g-spots.

The same exercises apply to all size toys.

It does not matter if the toy is a q-tip or a fist trainer… although, fisting is not a selling point unless you can bend a q-tip with your box and without your hands immediately afterwards.

Frankly, fisting is a very bad idea unless you have already had kids. There is just too much room for error that can do permanent damage even trying this.

When you have a solid ability to do 50 sit ups with a thin girth 6” toy inside you that does not come flying out… try walking across the room with the object inserted.

Try this in heels… do you know how to walk in heels yet?
If your knees bend, even slightly when you take a step, the heels are too high.

Ask iphone Grandma to teach you how to walk in heels. She taught me to be able to gracefully stand, dance, go up and down stairs and run in 6” stiletto heels. I’ve taught proper stance, step and gait to many females…it’s a niche for the transgender market and absolute requirement for purist BDSM.

Master the twist, sit ups, walking back and forth across the room barefoot AND doing it in heels with a 6” thin toy before sizing up.

You won’t be sizing to longer…you are sizing to a wider girth.

When you have mastered all the above with a 6”x1.5” width toy… you can move up to 7” long toys.
The selections get better but be very careful going bigger….

MOST HUMAN MALES ARE NOT BIGGER THAN 7”. They like to think they are… but they are not.

After playing with a 7” or larger toy, you should always do a downsize exercise as your workout cool down.

What do I mean… after using the 7” toy, then use the 6” toy until all your internal parts conform to it and then repeat this process with the 5”, 4” and 3” starter toys… then squeeze your pinky finger… and finally get down to the size of a q-tip.

In order to have really good gushing orgasms, you should be tighter at the end of sex/masturbating than you were at the beginning.

There are other exercises to teach you about gushing orgasms which I will get to later. You need to be able to master these things first.

There is a safety aspect to the gushing orgasm that is important for your benefit in addition to the sheer pleasure and joy they bring. I will write a specific letter about the safety aspects… Which could save your life.

Do me a huge favor… please bite your lip and don’t laugh out loud when you hear uneducated men talk about virgin pussy being tight and sexually experienced women being loose. Sure that is their experience. They are ignorant. They can’t buy a Thesaurus to fix that. It is your option to enlighten them or not… but nobody believes this until they experience it.

Let Joey-bag-of-donuts or captain-america-of-the-football-team live in la la Land and go smiling (quietly) on your way… or you might find yourself in a world of trouble at the next house party.

The point for doing these strengthening exercises isn’t for his benefit… it is for your benefit!

Yes. Tighter at the end than the beginning… not looser… makes the in and out or up and down feel better the longer you do it… whether the inserted object has a heartbeat or not.

There is also one more important reason for doing these excercises to stay tight… Having strong muscles will help prevent prolapses. While I have explained all of this under the heading of vaginal insertion techniques… The exercises work just as well for anal training.

Remember… In the womb, sex organs begin with the same tissue. A loose pussy is equivalent to a floppy dick and neither are much fun!

Enjoy your training.

Love you,
C. Change


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Click your mouse part two

Letter #17
Picking a Glass Toy for Training

One of my favorite toys is this little piece of glass with a bulbous top (start with the 1″ wide variety) that narrows to a small shaft with a wide circular base containing bumpy nodules. It has a round handle below the base.

This basic shape comes in a variety of colors, shapes and sizes. The 3” depth is best for training… vaginally or anally.

Use the 1”-1.5” width tip that is rounded… not the pointy one. The shaft width for this size is usually ¾”.

You want an initial toy that has some distinct variation between the head and the shaft so that you can train your internal parts to “suck down” on the entire unit… to conform to the shape of the toy.

The whole toy only needs a dime sized drop of organic coconut oil to be properly lubed.

Set up a wide mouth glass with ice cubes and a little water beside your “space.”
This is what you put the toy in when it is not inside you.

Ever wonder why they call it “hot pussy”… you are about to find out.

You will probably like the cold sensation on the tip.

At the speed of your heartbeat… and using alternating hands (you need to be ambidextrous to be properly balanced) slowly twist the toy in in one-half inch increments and then twist it back out.

As you twist the toy in… breathe in.

Breathe in for a count of 8 (or four heartbeats).

Reverse the process at the same speed while you exhale.

Continue to match breath and heartbeat.

Allow your internal sensory skin to feel what is going on.

The twisting motion should cause your internal skin to conform to the toy.

This is super important!!!!
Slow is super important!!!!

You are not trying to stretch yourself… you are trying to teach yourself how to allow a foreign object in and then compress the object with your vaginal walls. This will allow you to stay “tight” regardless of the size of the object.

You are “introducing” a foreign body into your body. Give your body a chance to get to know it’s new dance partner.

Keep using the half inch twisting and untwisting method until the nodules at the base of the toy meets your clitoris.
Now you can play “twist-her.”

Just like in yoga… Pay attention to your heartbeat and breathing rhythms.

This skill is akin to the finger warm up exercises of a piano player.

Breathing through the body, slowly matching the speed of the toy moving in and out, will help immensely when you learn how to orgasm.

When things get a little too hot, stick the toy back in the ice cubes for a minute.

Use this break time to go to the bathroom and drink a glass of water.
Repeat as necessary.

Notice I never said anything about going jackrabbit fast… that is because fast does not produce the same sensation as slow.

Fast may be great if you have no sensitivity and the only thing you can feel is the “in thrust” momentum. Follow my instructions to be able to feel everything!!! This produces much greater sensitivity and thus, better orgasms.

Being taught how to stay tight will please your partner but it will please you so much more.
Women might giggle about how men were circumcised after birth, removing the 8,000 nerve endings at the head of the penis… desensitizing them.
Maybe this was a good thing to help them last longer.
While I think that is a poorly constructed argument… Having that flap of skin removed does make the area easier to clean.

Men have been giggling, too!
Fast and not being able to feel everything… desensitizes You!
… And that… is missing the mark entirely.

Continues in next post…

C. Change


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Click your mouse part one

Letter #16
Proper Toy at the Proper Time

Remember when I noted earlier that you never use a vibrating or battery operated toy unless you are with a partner? It is true.

Do not train yourself to orgasm by vibrating with battery operated mechanisms.

First, this technique stops you from teaching your muscles to do the work. Which is where the fun is anyway.

Second, battery operated objects do not produce the best orgasms.

An egg or bullet inside you or a battery operated toy on your clitoris while a solid object is inside you will make things more enjoyable… When used sparingly!

There are times when you don’t want some mechanical piece of junk messing up a love-making experience so do not use mechanical toys in training. They are an accessory not a staple.

Ben-wa balls were the vaginal training tools of our ancestors. You would put them inside you and move them around with your own muscles. They Are pretty cool.

Ben-wa balls up inside you while you sit on a Sybian or Harley Davidson can be quite a treat. (Don’t fall off the back of the Harley!)

Ben-wa balls are usually made of metal and have some unique inlaid designs on them. They come in various weights and sizes. Amazon sells them… But as a starter… There are better options.

Most vibrators and dildos are made of some form of plastic or new fangled “safe latex”, “medical grade silicone” or other skin-like material.

You know what I’ve said about non-natural materials… do not use this stuff.

Ok… I do say use condoms. Especially with people and if someone brings you a toy that is not still in the package. (At a party or your new significant other wants to use this thing they just pulled out of the secret hiding space in their closet… who knows where that thing has been or if roaches or rats have peed on it.)

Tupperware as the example…
When a person buys Tupperware the product is initially very rigid. Over time it gets softer and less rigid.

Check in your kitchen cupboard and feel the rigidity of the various plastic containers… gauge the difference between the older ones versus newer ones of the same brand.
Plastic breaks down. Especially when heated!

Guess what happens to those plastic molecules in a food container… those molecules end up in your food.
Guess what happens to a plastic toy you stick in you… it breaks down over time.

The plastic stinks and you will stink, too.

Even the “medical grade silicone” toys I have used… had the silicone sluffing off at some point. (For instance… the veins on a life-like male member were rubbed off by use. Pits were left in the material.)

If you use medical grade silicone toys expect to throw them out about every 3 months.
Wash them ten times before you use them. Get the slick package crap off before using a toy the first time. Never just take it out of the package and stick it in you.
Any pits in the silicone will harbor microscopic bacteria.

I can give you a disadvantage for every material that is not natural.

Bare, unpolished Wood will give you splinters… but hopefully you are smarter than to put anything rough inside you.

My favorite toys are glass. The drawbacks to glass are rigidity and possible shattering… but if you purchase good quality, solid glass insert-able objects and don’t use them as darts… I have never had one break.

All training toys should have a handle at the base. You will need this initially, as a way to control the toy.

When you choose a regular use toy… get ones with flat bases that can stand on their own. Choose one from that company I mentioned in the first couple of letters. The one that makes second-to-none glass!

Flat, wide bases are easier to keep from getting pushed too far inside you (the base keeps them from going in) and if you need to put a suction cup on it for use in the bathtub… ya can.

Part two… How to pick the correct training toy to train your box for best results… Continued in next post.


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C. Change

Letter #3 Part 7

A quickie is for a guy.

An all-nighter is for a girl.

Most guys who roll their eyes and say they have to get up early… are too lazy to please their partners.

Avoid those “gems.” All that says is that they want gratification but yours is not nearly as important.

Who wants to be in that kind of lopsided relationship?

Hold out for a good guy who can handle a few “sleepless nights” and this, in my opinion, is a workable deal.

So, your new beau does not have the stamina to keep up with your needs? Enter vibrators…

They don’t give you diseases. They don’t complain if you cheat.

They are terrible public dates. But lots of fun if you have to get hand checked by TSA at the airport… And you have one in your carry on luggage.

Lots of ways to deal with this.

Appropriately and ideally, your human choice of companion is just as turned on using himself or toys on you for foreplay.

He is engaged in the act of your satisfaction during the entire time… However long that takes.

An egg inside you that he controls during dinner and a movie so that after those, you are primed for enjoyment… is acceptable.

I will write to you about my favorite toys… I know you will like them, too.

Meanwhile you can search the internet to get started on the homework I’ve given you above.

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Continued in

Letter #3 Part 9


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