Teen Parenting PSA
Let’s face it folks… that talk you need to have with your kids about drugs and sex… is not going to go well if you don’t have the proper attitude or answers.
Most parents today remember the famous commercials showing a fried egg as your brain on drugs, a man running around a chair as a human-hamster on coke or a supermodel who takes out her false teeth and removes her make-up to reveal the dangers of meth.
Did these things stop us from doing drugs?
Did listening to boring statistics stop us from saying “No?”
Were alcoholic beverages or drugs involved the first time you had sex? Were drugs or alcohol the catalyst to get you or your partner into the sack?
We’ve been selling sex to underage kids since long before Jon Benet Ramsey was murdered.
Teen Vogue has more subscribers than the New York Times digital and print editions combined! (Numbers based on 2018 Google search data.)
It’s Time to change the conversation. The world is a different place than when we were growing up… and WE are the reason why our kids are facing different challenges than we did.
Up to 90% THC vape is available today but in the 80s or 90s, weed was around 4% THC. Back then, porn was a movie or vhs tape. Today, porn is made on a cell phone and uploaded in real time. 12 year olds are going through puberty and they look old enough for consent in some states!
If you are contemplating that “Don’t do it” talk your parents gave you (that didn’t work) or think you might not have all the answers to the questions you might be asked… consider flipping through the pages of Letters to Jamison. This is the information I gave to my own family to help their kids safely navigate the new landscape I helped to create.
Read it, put it in front of your kid and open the conversation based on a third party take on sex, drugs and ways to get out of a Bad situation when they realize they’ve made a mistake. You may not agree with everything… but the real solutions and scenarios, give you a way “in” to have an open and honest discussion with a curious or closed “out” teen. Remember when you were secretly looking for real knowledge in the least painful or embarrassing way?
When parents didn’t have the convincing answer to keep us out of trouble, most of us learned by trial and error….and error… And error…
Letters to Jamison chapters are filled with brutally honest nuggets of usefulness… they are not the politically correct canned answers from health professionals. Letters to Jamison are the truths the author wishes she knew “way back when.”
It’s good to know what to do when you get an STD when you are not old enough to have a Drivers License, (besides be angry, embarrassed and BUSTED), but wouldn’t that smart sex talk have been exponentially better if someone explained soap and water could keep you from getting skin contact diseases if you bathed immediately AFTER you had sex? (Instead of falling asleep or having a cigarette… bathe first, then cuddle when clean!)
Your quick little “avoidance” talk has to out-compete the sexually glorified behavior exhibited in TV shows like Shameless, Special Victims Unit, Game of Thrones and Teen Mom.
Your knowledge has to be more convincing than the porn industry, Hollywood, the music industry, the internet and 50 shades of fake hype combined.
Your level of confidence, greater than the “friend” or peer pressure.
If you really want to convince your teen not to do something… use the time-tested, proven solution of educating them about what they are missing out on when they make uneducated choices. Give them alternatives. Give them solutions. Give them the insider’s perspective from someone who has been in all those places you may not have wanted to go.
Sure you can wait until they are in a “serious” relationship… If your kid is like my siblings were… But I was the black sheep. At 14, drinking, doing drugs, having sex… And kids like me, have parents who swear their kid would never do these things at this age.
My college education was paid for, in part, by the sex industry… I had it. I used it. I also knew it wouldn’t last forever but my education would.
Now, I look back and see how our kids are making even worse mistakes because our “Gordon Gekko generation” showed how to get out of some of the consequences but failed miserably at how to avoid the mistakes in the first place.
If you don’t have this conversation, your kids will search out answers… just like you did, or maybe they will find much deeper and darker rabbit holes…
Follow the answers I gave my own family in Letters to Jamison here and via: patreon.com/colechange
…Because knowledge is more powerful than ignorance or peer pressure!